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Our DJ played the wrong song for our first dance, so that memory is a little tainted unfortunately.

Hope your day was amazing despite the weather forcing some adjustments!

You’re totally right, I would feel the same! I’m not sure I would be as willing to roll with it as you are, so serious props!!

Can’t wait to hear all about your big day

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True - the one thing that crossed my mind was that now there is a 0% chance of dropping the rings in the river!! lol

Maybe think of all the bad things that could of happened on the dock that you are now avoiding to make yourself feel better? When I think dock, I think of that video where the dock collapses and the whole wedding party falls into the lake. At least there is 0% chance of that happening now! Other positives: fewer mosquitoes, no chance of dropping the rings into the river... umm... less dampness? 😋

I'm sorry things didn't go to plan, but I hope you have a wonderful day on Saturday.

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HAHAHA it happens! everyone puts so much time money and effort into their wedding day and then crap hits the fan ugh lol

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First off, I am so excited that your wedding is literally days away! IT'S SO CLOSE! And second off, you can be as upset, mad, and disappointed as you want to be. You put a lot of work into planning your dream wedding and it stinks when things don't go as planned. Stupid river and rain ruining your day. Mother nature can suck a D!

View quoted message Yikes! Well sorry girl. Hope your day is still magical!

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Thanks Nowhere but up from here right? That or it will be one heck of a story!

Oh man! I am totally with you on wanting to be upset and frustrated, and yes dramatic! I would feel the same way. There are things we can't control but it still freakin sucks when you've had a vision for so long. So sorry to hear this!!!!!!!!!!!! Your new spot is still lovely and I know you will make the most of it.

But it's good to get a good old rant out now. Can't wait to hear about your big day Hope its the best.

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Lol, that's my mentality now that I figured out a solution

I'm very dramatic which causes me to blow things up bigger than they are haha

Oh man this sucks to hear but who cares YOURE GETTING MARRIED YAYYYAYAY!!!!!!!!

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Weather can definitely change!

We live in Thunder Bay, so right on Lake Superior - where you can't trust any weather forecast lol. The rain could also happen before the ceremony and your evening be totally fine!

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At least there is still time for the weather to change? Not that this will help with the dock as it's out for good now - but it went from 90% chance of 23mm of rain to now being 80% chance of 11.4mm! Just in a day! Rather have it shower all day instead of downpour

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Lol 😂 I'm really not!! Darn rain!!!!

But ya, I think we've got it figured out now but it still blows that all those gorgeous pictures that other Brides & Grooms get to take on the dock won't be something we get :/ Oh well! Maybe we can celebrate our 25th out there and get the pictures then!

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Really helps to just let it all out in order to start working on it so that you don't have a "poor me" mindset and are just focused on re-planning

You definitely have every bride-right to be disappointed and upset that your vision didn't work out. Of course, everyone is going to say "you're still getting married" which is true, but definitely mourn your dock loss.

Like Katelyn said, keep your chin up, Doll

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Oh that is pretty. Everything will work out!!

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I think we got everything handled and even got the seating chart dealt with (3 times... because we had 3 couples change up things all last night..)!

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We found another picture of the ceremony site on their website -

So I think this will look better. This way we have a nicer foliage of trees and don't have to worry about their plants (I would prefer none over ones that may not be in my colour scheme or just don't "fit" with my vision/aesthetic.

They don't have that arch at the other end but they said they do have an arch? So we will be there on Friday for our rehearsal supper and prep and will work it out! We rented more than enough table runners that we can use as drapery too.

Girl between your basement flooding and this you’re not having a great time with the rain!

Id be annoyed too honestly. You have every right to be disappointed, cause even though it’ll still be lovely and I’m sure at the end you’ll just be happy to be married, it’s still a bummer things didn’t go to plan!

You have every right to feel disappointed. You have put so much time, effort and engery into this day. However, your venue is gorgeous if your guests can't enjoy a bonfire (and you don't know this yet) at least they can enjoy that amazing space! It'll be the wedding of your dreams. You'll fine a way to make the other space as amazing as the dock. I have faith in you. You won't go down. It'll be a perfectly imperfect day! Clouds make incredible black and white pictures. Rain (hopefully minimal) is a sign of good luck on a wedding day.

So sorry to hear this all happened to you. Chin up doll. I know it doesn't help but we are all here for you. I hope things look up for you soon.

View quoted message I get what you are saying. It’s not that bad. It is still nice but your sock picture was so beautiful!
Drape the material on the fence for sure. Do you have any extra flowers, or centrepiece material you can add if the plants are dead?

One thing wrong after another is not the greatest news to hear knowing the day is coming around. Your concerns for the guests and the ceremony site to be wed is huge and for the right reasons.

Taking a chance on the weather conditions and wet dock is what you will look back to remember as to your wedding day.

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That's what we're here for girl! Definitely saves the family some drama, but also sometimes I feel like they could be more understanding as well - it's hard from both sides but what matters is dock or no dock your day will be perfect

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Love that this community is here for the venting, it makes it so much easier not only on us Brides and Grooms but on our families so they don't always have to "put up" with the drama and whatnot

I get your frustration. And it's OK to be upset! You understand you're still getting married at the end of the day but still you had a vision and unfortunately now, it's different than your vision.

And that's ok too! It might not be ok right this very minute, but it'll be ok the day of You're getting married to your best friend and that'll be all that matters in the end.

The seating chart I'm sure will be able to take your mind off of things!

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I know I got a notification saying you replied but I'm thinking based on the first sentence it got taken down before I could get to it... but I'm just going to copy&paste it here and reply here as well;

"What does the other ceremony spot look like? Could you spruce it up a bit to make it a place that you could see yourself getting married in. I know it is not going to be what you wanted, but you can make the most of it!"

Here's a pic that my venue owner sent me (since there are like ZERO people that get married at the other spot you can't find any pictures online)

And I know, it's not "ugly" but it's a lot more rustic and farm like than the dock... the dock looked so pretty and I loved the reflection on the river :/

Going to my parent's house tonight to do the seating chart (finally!) and now we will figure out how to make it look nicer... any ideas? For the dock I had material that I was going to drape over the rails that I guess I can put on the fence - but not sure about those plants they have... or if those plants are even alive at this point...

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Unfortunately no, they had to pull the dock out of the water completely for the season It's the other ceremony site or nothing! Which I mean, at least it means there are no decisions to be made as they have been made for us... but it's just sucky... I even posted a picture on the dock when we were at a VIP opening for the venue captioning it and thinking "this is exactly where we will be standing when we become Husband & Wife!" and now it's just... not true... which again, sucks.

You 100% can be upset that it is not the wedding you planned. There is nothing wrong with that at all, especially when you have been planning for so long. My dad looked at the weather for Friday and asked me if I had a backup plan because it was going to be "cold" I literally told him that people should be prepared as they know the ceremony is outside, and the rest of us will be fine LOL. I am the exact same way, once I have something pictured in my mind, I want it to happen that way and if it doesn't it will suck.

Can you do your ceremony right in front of the dock with the river in the background?