Gifts requested at Bridal Shower

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Hank you bring up several good points!

You can always put a registry for towels and sheets at Bed Bath and beyond and then also mention that you pretty much have everything you need, but if people want to contribute towards your honeymoon you also accept monetary gifts.

We used the same registry for our shower and wedding.. we had towels on there and some other upgrades to what we have, with a few smaller items like new serving utensils etc. We also had a little poem about a contribution to our honeymoon. The smaller registry with larger items made it fairly obvious that we preferred cash. It isn't common to receive cash at a shower though. You could say something about how you've lived together for a long time, therefore gifts are not necessary but if anyone insists, a contribution towards your honeymoon experience would be greatly appreciated.

Typically, shower gifts are not expensive household items. Those are reserved for the wedding present. If a shower has a gift registry, it normally would be for small items valued no more than $30 like a set of glasses, nice picture frames, etc. My wife and I have personally never attended a shower with a registry and we usually give items like a bottle of wine, bag of specialty coffee, some fancy food item, or something within their interest like a board game. When my wife had her bridal shower, she also got gag gifts like a lingerie set.

The only issue with asking for cash is, since you're inviting these people to your wedding as well (because it's a huge faux pas to invite someone to a shower and not the actual wedding), and assuming you would also prefer cash over other gifts at the wedding, you would be asking for cash gifts in two instances and it would come off as cash grabby.

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When I had my bridal shower we just said to my MIL and mom who were hosting the shower to let the guests know that we would rather have a monetary gift