General question

Honestly do what you can afford. being in a wedding is expensive on its own!

If you’re crafty you could also make something personalized and save some money ☺️

50$ is fair and you can some pretty cool stuff ! Good luck in your search !

View quoted message Gift cards for Home Depot is a great idea! My fiancé would love that too

$50 is more than enough since you are standing and paying for other things.

As a bridesmaid helping out with the pre events of the wedding, its fair to give $50 on your part since you have spent the cost of what is expected to get yourself so far.

I didn’t register for my bridal shower as I also
hoped most people would just give cash or a GC. I did receive a lot of lovely physical gifts but I also got a few cheques, visa gift cards and straight up cash. My fiancé and I also already live together and most people are aware that we would love to upgrade our kitchen and living room furniture as well as eventually finish our basement. So I don’t think people were too concerned with simply giving money!

I would do a $50 gift card for a store you know she loves! That way it's a little more personal vs. just cash.

I have never been to a bridal shower where it was a cash only- this seems so awquard! If you know she needs something I would just spend and get her the amount you can afford in an gift. I did that for wedding too- it was 100 value but didn't cost me that

I would have give 50 too!

I think 'asking' for cash may be a little tacky. I don't plan on registering as FH and I already own our own home and don't need much. I was just not going to say anything about gifts, and if anyone asks tell them gifts are not necessary but if they would like to get us something we would appreciate a Home Depot gift card or cash. I dont know.. is that tacky? I don't think I would be offended if someone said that to me..

View quoted message That's a great idea. I also live with my FH and have for three years now so we don't need much either. We are planning on buying a condo next year so asking for new upgraded this is an awesome idea. And you can never go wrong with gift cards !!

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I have now lived with my FH for a year and we have mostly everything - so I completely get where they are coming from - I would have asked for straight up cash if I could too. What I did was register for items I want to upgrade and we are asking for GC to Home Depot for the FH I was also told to expect gifts that weren't on the registry no matter what though so I assume she is aware she will probably get some regardless of what they asked for.

I would only put as much in the envelope as you would purchase a gift for. She should appreciate that you listened to what she asked for.

View quoted message Yea I was thinking $50 too. Her and her fiance live together and already have everything they need which is way she has asked for monetary gifts only.. I think a GC is a good idea

$50 is what I spend on wedding shower gifts so that is fine. I would make it a GC though... that way it's used for what a shower is meant for - furnishing a home! Very faux pas to have a shower and only ask for cash.... I would just pick something out or get a GC to BB&B or something. Not cash though...

Asking for money at a shower is generally viewed as a faux pas- it is supposed to be a gift giving event- if it was me, requests be damned- I would pick out something nice from home sense and call it a day.

The only time I have given cash at a shower was for a friend that lived in the states and had no easy way of getting gifts home.

$50 is a great idea. I know a lot of people usually spend about $50 on gifts so I think that would be great!

Hi Fiona!

Welcome to the Community!

I think whatever you can afford, and what works best for you, is what you should give. Do not feel guilty.

Then do $50! that seems generous to me