I didn’t want a shower but I actually planned my own bachelorette. I never wanted to put pressure on my bridal party to do these things and I enjoy planning events. My girls had lots of surprises waiting for me and went all out decorating at the hotel though! It was really special and everyone had an amazing time, which is all that matters in the end. We also did a partially joint bachelorette/bachelorette where we met the guys for dinner in between so my husband and I planning made sense.
Is your sister the only one standing up for you or do you have a wedding party with a few other BM? If it's the latter, maybe it can be a group effort?
I have been MOH and planned the events myself, but have also been BM where everyone chips in, or even just a friend of the bride who stepped in to help, as others were over-whelmed and had a hard time functioning.
Either way, I am sorry you are feeling frustrated and not as supported in things as you should be!
Ya that's a tough one, but remind her who's wedding and who's the boss.
I love my MOH for wanting to go above and beyond, but I'm not as young as I used to, so while parties just not my thing and she was trying to 1 up my friends bridal party, she went all out but in a girly boujee kind of way, rented a hall and everything. I on the other had want it in my in laws back yard and do a garden party, they have this really nice gazebo that I wanted to hang flowers from and then get finger foods, Amazon has a tea party paper plates and cups that look like flowered china, so I sent her Pinterest idea of what I wanted and with my Amazon finds and she slowly got on board. The bachelorette is a different story, I'm still trying to convince her that I just want my girls to have a day of pampering and relaxing and she wants to rent a party boat. One thing at a time hopefully she will come around to that too. Good luck with your sister I am sure she means well.
Mine is planning my shower and Bachelorette and I had to tell her to relax and kind of tell her my vision and to do a budget friendly. Once I gave her ideas she actually preferred my ideas and could see that I preferred a more relax fun vibe than girls gone wild vibe. I would talk to her and let her know how you feel, she is your sister.