I recently had a rift with one of my closest gfs whom I have known for nearly 20 yrs. She is very type A and I truly y believe that she thought her suggestions about my upcoming July 2023 wedding were helpful but they were anything but. I was often left feeling like I needed to justify my choices. Like, for example when we ran into a snag with our officiant (due to our Bishop no longer sanctioning Deacons's to bless the sacrament of marriage as they were not higher level clergy) she suggested that I elope as it was far easier and cheaper even thought she knew this was not my vision.
She asked if I was going to be providing transportation for my guests between the ceremony and reception and seemed annoyed that I had not intended to do so. She is one of my most affluent gfs and she seemed to always be harping on costs and yet went on no more than a couple of weeks after this exchange to book an expensive 9 day trip for her and her husbands to the Dominican Republic as though cost was no object. I just felt so annoyed and hurt by her comments and it reached a breaking point when she started to ask what my fiancé was contributing to the wedding and whether he was pulling his weight wedding planning and also what my parents were contributing. It reached a breaking point for me and I asked that she refrain from commenting on my wedding, my loving and supportive partner and his contributions to my wedding and my parents and their contributions. I realize that this didn't leave a lot to talk about. I asked her for some space. That was a month ago and I am now feeling torn about sending out my save the date to her. We haven't spoken in the last month. I am over the worst of my anger and I would like us to reconcile. I am wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar and how they managed that.
