Following up with Guests Rsvps

I gave a 1 week countdown reminder to the RSVP date and found that 90% of the outstanding responses were doen within a day. A few others had some things they were still working out and messaged me to say they'd get me their response by the due date, and they did. If one person is giving you push back, I wouldn't take it personally. Most people seemed to appreciate the reminder, and if that person needs more time, let them have until the due date.

I am a planner myself, so seeing the pending RSVP close to date makes me nervous. Perhaps those people are still trying to swap/apply for a day off at work... other than that, your wedding date should be save prior to the RSVP deadline.

Maybe you could draft up a back-up list (plan B) in case if ppl bail on last minute or decide that they cant make it, you could fill those space up!

Regardless, you paid for the spots already! might as well invite a better company

Congratulations!

I sent my reminders out two days ago with the deadline of May 15th. We are doing a live stream of the ceremony so I want to get the links out close to then so they are ready to be clicked on. I don't think its un reasonable for you to do this. When is your wedding? Mine is June 4th

I can understand your frustration, unless they are waiting for approval for time off form work, most cases people know what they are doing within two weeks and should be able to RSVP with a confirmed answer.

A week/few days we sent a message to guests and then the all came back LOL

One week before our deadline we sent this message to guests:
Hello! Just a friendly reminder that our RSVP deadline is one week away on April 15. We would love for you to be there but understand life may get in the way of that. Either way if you could please go to *insert wedding website* and let us know as soon as possible that would be much appreciated! Thank you!
Then within like 3 days almost all guests had responded.

We did not follow up until RSVPs were due. Many people like to take their time and because you sent them early, it makes sense you don't have all of your responses - although you're close! We purposely gave ourselves a week buffer to when our venue needed numbers. We did end up only having to contact one person if I remember correctly, if that.

It's way too early to be nudging people for RSVPs when they still have two weeks.

My message cut off: Our wedding on June 18th is quickly approaching, and we are so excited to celebrate with our friends and family! This is just a friendly reminder that RSVPs are due one week from today, on April 15th. If you haven’t already, please let us know if you will be attending by filling out the response card and mailing it back to us. We can’t wait to see you there!

Collecting RSVPs has been the most frustrating thing about wedding planning. I sent out this text reminder to our guests one week before the deadline and it helped get the ball rolling:
Our wedding on June 18th is quickly approaching, and we are so excited to celebrate with our friends and family!

Agree with Amanda, I would wait until your deadline or closer to follow-up.

I am like you and RSVP/plan for things super early. My Fiancé is like your friend who got annoyed lol. Just remember some people prefer to take their time with these things.

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I would still hold off until the deadline then proceed with follow ups. Some of your guests might still need to get things sorted out.

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My RSVP's are through online!

Are you RSVP's coming through the mail or online? If it's coming through the mail, postage has been slow.

I would personally wait until the deadline, then start following up with your guests. You still have 2 weeks until that date you provided!