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Curious September 2023 Ontario

Flower girl / ring bearer

Amanda, on June 19, 2022 at 13:55 Posted in Wedding ceremony 0 12
We’ve opted to not have either or, we have no nieces of nephews and all of our cousins are older. I don’t see an issue without having a flower girl or ring bearer, would you ?


Latest activity by Vinod, on July 4, 2022 at 14:30
  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    You can avoid this part of the procession since there are no kids to be part of the wedding party. Its your day anyhow to choose what you want done.
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  • Derek
    Frequent user September 2022 Alberta
    Derek ·
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    They are certainly not essential. Like another poster here mentioned, it can be difficult dealing with young children in this role who may fuss and not take direction well. Having said that we are almost certainly having them at ours (they are my fiancee's grandchildren). The little girl is very excited about dressing up like a princess and being part of the wedding party; the boy is less enthusiastic but my fiancee is confident that if the role is better explained to him, he may be more willing to participate.

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  • Rebecca
    Devoted October 2023 Newfoundland and Labrador
    Rebecca ·
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    Totally not a necessity.

    my two kids are involved because well my daughter would have a fit if she wasn't the flower girl she's 7 going on 17... and the little guy who will be 3.5 will be the ring bearer just because he's roped into it because of his sister Smiley tongue ill have them go down the aisle and wherever they choose to stand they willl run off to during the ceremony

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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
    Carine ·
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    I'm not having either at my wedding. I do not know small enough children. Tiktok has people asking friends to to it as a joke to get the vibe going. It's funny to watch.

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  • A
    Curious November 2022 Ontario
    Amanda ·
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    We arent having either role at our at our wedding as well. No need.

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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
    Amanda ·
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    My fiance and I aren't having either one.

    Do what you and your fiance want to do. It's your day no one else's!
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  • Carmel
    Featured December 2020 Ontario
    Carmel ·
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    Honestly, our nieces and nephews were ours but literally just to include them.. the girls didn't do anything aside from walking down the aisle and the boys just handed us the rings when it was time (my 13 year old nephew held on to them in his suit jacket pocket).
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  • Yami
    Frequent user October 2022 Ontario
    Yami ·
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    We’re not having any either. Although we have nieces and nephews (cousins’ kids) but we decided to not do it still.
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  • Liberty
    Featured May 2022 Alberta
    Liberty ·
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    We did not have a flower girl or a ring bearer!
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  • Rayanne
    Featured June 2022 Ontario
    Rayanne ·
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    I have a seven year old daughter and a 9 year,old son and we still opted out of flower girl/ring bearer. It's so nice that you can make your wedding what you and finance want.
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  • Alyx
    Featured September 2022 Alberta
    Alyx ·
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    You can do whatever you want it’s your guys’s wedding! Some people don’t even have a wedding party! It’s 2022 there’s no rules 😉 do what makes you guys happy!!
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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
    Hank ·
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    Definitely not. It's cute but certainly not must haves. Even people with children in the extended families often opt for not using a ring bearer or flower girl because they don't want to deal with fussy children not taking direction well.

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