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Rebecca
Beginner August 2023 Nova Scotia

First Looks 馃憖馃憖馃憖

Rebecca, on February 5, 2022 at 18:24 Posted in Wedding ceremony 0 19
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My fianc茅 and I are pretty sure we don't want to do a first look. Not because we believe in the "bad luck to see the bride before the wedding" tradition. But because he's not a super emotional guy, we're worried that we'll lose the genuine reaction as I'm walking down the aisle because he will have already seen me. I'm not saying he won't be HAPPY, but if he's going to cry I want it to be as I'm walking down the aisle LOL 馃槀馃槀
I love watching first look videos and I like the idea of one. But it might not be practical since I would rather see his face as I'm walking towards him. What are everyone's thoughts??

If you did a first look, let me know how it went!

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Latest activity by Kelsey, on June 2, 2022 at 22:46
  • Kelsey
    Frequent user June 2022 Ontario
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    Originally we weren't planning to do one, but my fiance was nervous about his reaction at the aisle and that everyone would be watching him. So we've decided to do a first look just the 2 of us so he is more comfortable and less pressured at the aisle. We're only doing a quick few minutes of a first look with only us and the photographer and then going straight to the ceremony, not doing any other wedding party photos or anything beforehand.

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  • Darbi
    Curious August 2022 Alberta
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    My fianc茅 is also not super emotional so we aren't doing a first look either. But I am going to do a first look with my bridesmaids and dad which I'm really excited for! But I agree, I want to see him for the first time while I'm walking down the aisle Smiley heart

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  • Shelly
    Curious July 2022 Ontario
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    We just discussed the first look, and we will not be doing that, until I am walking down the path. For that might the only traditional part we are keeping for our wedding. For we both know we will be emotional that day.

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  • Carly
    Frequent user May 2022 British Columbia
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    We鈥檙e doing first look walking down the aisle, not for the superstition of it, but for the sentimentality (we like the idea of us first seeing each other at opposite ends of the aisle). I will admit, it did seem like it would be good to do first looks earlier just to get the photo鈥檚 but we still decided the aisle was the way to go for us. If you wanted to do a taste of a first look photo鈥檚, you can do what I鈥檓 planning on doing where I鈥檓 actualy going to have a first look photo鈥檚 with my dad. I鈥檝e seen some photos of those and it鈥檚 so sweet I wanted to do that. Another one I want to do (if we have time馃槵馃槄) is where both the bride and groom swap bridal parties and do a first look (great if you are all from the same friend group which we are)
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  • Courtney
    Newbie July 2022 Ontario
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    We are not doing a first look either! I have been to weddings where they do a first look, and meet each other at the altar, and personally I just love the first look at the aisle. But 100% understand that not all couples are comfortable showing that much emotion infant of everyone!

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    You can always ask the servers to save you a plate of the cocktail hour food in the bridal suite. That way you get the magic moment at the aisle and he gets his food.

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  • Derek
    Frequent user September 2022 Alberta
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    My fiancee showed me a VERY abbreviated 'first look' (which was a shot on her phone taken by the bridal shop) lasting about 5 seconds. I did not get a real good look, not that I needed to, as I will see it in September.
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  • Kathy
    Curious June 2022 Ontario
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    Same here Kelly. He said that is his only request lol.

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  • Alyx
    Featured September 2022 Alberta
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    We are not doing a first look because my fianc茅 wants his first look of me walking down the aisle, I鈥檓 fine with it! I planned everything else so I let him have that haha!
    But if it were up to me I would have one, but only for the purpose of getting all our portraits out of the way so we can goto the cocktail party and have more time to celebrate with family. As it sits now we miss our cocktail party for portraits and then I had to have sunset photos so we will sneak out for a bit to get those, in my mind not giving us a lot of time to spend with our friends and family and making our timeline very rushed
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  • Miranda
    Newbie October 2022 Ontario
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    I'm interested to read comments on this one as I am having difficulty deciding myself!

    My fiance says he doesn't care, but that he wants the food served at cocktail hour. Lol so I guess his vote is first look. But I personally am thinking there is something special about seeing each other down the aisle. So I'm stumped.

    Good luck!

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    "but if he's going to cry I want it to be as I'm walking down the aisle LOL"

    I know you mean this in jest but check with your partner if he would be okay with crying at the altar in front of everyone watching. While it may please you to see such a huge display of emotion for you, he may find it uncomfortable or embarrassing lol.

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  • KELLY
    Featured October 2023 Ontario
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    We are also not having a first look. My FH made this one request and he is not willing to budge on it.

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  • Kara
    Frequent user June 2022 Ontario
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    We are not having a first look. Surprisingly, he wanted the first time he was going to see me to be walking down the aisle. I鈥檓 a bit more of a traditionalist, so I didn鈥檛 really want a first look鈥. And I also don鈥檛 really understand the point of them, so, it just didn鈥檛 make sense for us. But It鈥檚 your day- if you want to sneak a special intimate moment for the both of you then I think it鈥檚 a great idea! If you鈥檙e on the fence or don鈥檛 really care, then I say skip it- one less stressor on the day to worry about and more time to spend with your guests.
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  • Rebecca
    Beginner August 2023 Nova Scotia
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    I LOVE the idea of passing each other a note when we hold hands through a door! It's the perfect combination of post ceremony intimacy without me having to worry about losing any impact 馃槏馃槏 Thanks for the tip!!!
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  • Rayanne
    Featured June 2022 Ontario
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    We are going to do the first look. Partly because as much as we want to share our day with everyone we also like some privacy during super emotional moments. Our original date was in winter and we wouldn't have much light during the day. Even with having more light we really want to spend our cocktail hour with our guests welcoming them (and enjoying the cocktail hour ourselves) rather than leaving to take pictures.
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  • Carmel
    Featured December 2020 Ontario
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    So we were already married (pandemic made us postpone from the original date but we got married) but still a big deal to finally get to that day. We did a first look for the purpose of photos, but also in order to be able to really savour that moment together, alone (ok and with the photographers) because we knew walking down the aisle we'd also be distracted by all of our guests and everything else. My husband still got emotional during the ceremony because we were finally having our day we'd planned for so long and sharing it with everyone we love. Wouldn't change how we did things. (I would however, tell myself not to make eye contact with a friend/colleague before him though 馃槅馃槅).
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  • Liberty
    Featured May 2022 Alberta
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    I've heard multiple people say that their partners still cried as they walked down the aisle even doing a first look. Walking down the aisle is a super emotional moment I don't think doing a first look will change that. We are definitely doing a first look as a way to help calm our nerves before the wedding and make the day flow better
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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    Your first looks don't have to be seeing each other as he could be blind folded and just holding your hands or standing back to back along with other poses. An alternative to the first look pictures is you both stand on each side of the door and hold hands in the middle even if to hand a note or letter to each other to read before the ceremony. Its been done and he will see you walk down the aisle to see you follow through after. It can be a moment to share and remember.

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  • Amanda
    Featured August 2022 British Columbia
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    My fiance and I are not having a first look. My fiance actually brought it up to me that he wants to see me for the first time walking down the aisle
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