First look ?

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I totally feel you on this! We are doing a first look because of timing logistics, our venue will only let us start the ceremony at 4:30pm and I am not wasting my cocktail hour taking photos. BUT I also feel like by the time we are done getting ready and all that, I am just going to want to see FH and have a moment with him that is just us before the whole thing starts. I know both (first look) and walking down the aisle will be special in their own way.

My FH and I are doing the First Look.

I'll know after spending the morning anxiously getting ready and stressing about wedding details in between, he's going to be the one I want to see before I walk down the aisle. He's the one who's going to make feel a lot better about the day & just having him physically there will be comforting. Nothing really changes the visual aspects and the emotions involved when he sees you walk down the aisle, even if you saw each other moments before.

Me and my FH will be doing a first look for our wedding. Our reasoning is:

A) we only have one photographer so if our first look was walking down the aisle we would only be able to get a picture of one of our reactions vs. both of our reactions in a first look.

B) we are getting married Oct. 5th so sun isn't going to last forever

C) this allows us to get all of the family photo's and wedding party photo's out of the way and then be able to skip cocktail hour all together!

Its a popular thing to do now if you wish to go that route. Indian weddings are starting to do the same with first look shots.

The decision ultimately comes down to you and FH to want to see each other or wait until you walk down the aisle. Opinions are just there openly and to see if the views help overall. If not, don't follow the trend and follow your heart's choice.

We're not doing a first look, I want my FH to first see me walking down the aisle.

However, I'm considering a first touch, so we don't see each other, but still get a private moment before it starts. He'd be on one side of a door, I'd be on the other, and we'd be able to hold hands and chat before starting the ceremony.

Just because something is popular and trending, doesn't mean you have to do it. If you want to see your FH for the first time walking down the aisle, do that!

We’ve decided to go with one for several reasons, the big one being logistics. Our ceremony is at 4 and our reception starts at 5:30. It would be a logistical nightmare to try to do them in between. Also, we’re not very traditional. We already live together, it’s been 9 years, let’s just take our photographs before our ceremony!

You do have to do what feels right for you and your FH. There’s a lot of “trendy” things that we’re not doing because we just don’t like them. Go with your gut!

In my opinion, don’t go for something because it is “popular” do what both you and your FH want.
For us we have a later ceremony, and we didn’t want to waste mingling with our guests doing all the pictures. So we split it up.
Doing a first look will also give my FH a chance to relax, I think if he had to wait until 5 to see me walk down the isle he would be too nervous to enjoy the moment!

I think its 100% up to you and your partner! Talk to them and see what they want to do! It takes up a bit of time which is why we are option out of it, but we both also want the moment to be walking down the aisle! We want all that love and emotion right when we say I Do!