Fiancé(e) Friday! - When my partner and I fight, it's usually about ______

My dog. If we're ever upset with each other it's always about my dog. My pupper is a big ball of anxiety and has a lot of quirks which I am super sympathetic to, but my DH grew up with well trained working dogs so sometimes he gets super frustrated when my dog is bad on a leash or barking his head off. I think he expects too much from the dog, DH thinks I baby the dog (I do), that sort of thing. It's such a small simple problem, and DH does totally love my dog and is a great dog dad to him, and my pup does have lovely manners in the house so the issue doesn't come up too often, but it is a running joke in our house that if DH and I are ever in a fight it's always because of my silly anxious lovely weird doggo.

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My thoughts exactly, especially when we fight about how much money our wedding is costing us and how majority of that is being financed by us, or my family, because his family (who I have somewhat mixed feelings about) has shown no inclination to help financially, not even with the purchase of his suit or anything...

It's hard to get along with your future family, especially when you come from different cultural and social backgrounds, but I try to keep in mind that his family clearly did something right if they raised my fiance to be the great man he is

His family or money- wedding expenses can be difficult so it comes up. His family and I haven't always gotten a long, but getting better

Money 🙃 finances are hard when you’re saving for a wedding but also one of you has been hella unfortunate job wise. We’re finally doing better so they’re significantly less frequent

His socks. He leaves them everywhere and I always get frustrated and throw them into his desk so it’s mess and they aren’t all over the apartment. It was in his vows that he is going to try harder to put them in the laundry basket and so far he is doing better. But it’s only day 3 of married life so we shall see how long it lasts

Us being lazy! We both tend to be lazy on Sundays (our only day off together), so we don't get as much done as we plan out, so a discussion is usually had.

The thermostat! He can put up with the cooler temperatures but I usually bump it up when he's not home lol we also have different opinions about when it's time to turn off the furnace in the summer and install the AC.

His family

View quoted message We are the same. We have complete opposite views on some things (ie politics) and can get pretty heated. Lol

other than that me nagging him about picking up after himself can cause an argument because he gets so defensive

Cleaning. He just genuinely doesn't even notice/care if things are dirty or messy so he's not great about doing things without me asking. But it drives me insane. Sometimes we argue over finances too but it's usually resolved by me reminding him of everything we have to save for.

99% of the time it’s “what’s for dinner?” I work 12 hour shifts Thursday to Saturday and he ALWAYS asks me what I want for dinner. I don’t know man, I’m at work. Also, I make dinner Sunday to Wednesday and don’t ask you.
Figure it out. You’re a grown man 😂

We typically argue about things that have nothing to do with us. Its opinions about other situations, that don't involve us. Very weird I know, but other than that, we don't fight about any issues between us often. I always tell him to clean up after himself and he does so it's never an argument really..

We don't really fight, but we definitely bicker sometimes. and its usually me starting it over something I asked him to do or if his house is a huge mess I usually get after him about it. but it's always small things that get resolved super quick so its no biggy haha

My daughter or miscommunication.

Wedding planning lol

Miscommunication here as well. Most of the time, I feel worried about making things a big deal so I don't say anything but he knows when something is bugging me so we talk about it. It would be easier if I could get it through my head to just say what I'm feeling right away lol

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LOL all of this is so true!

My biggest pet peeve is dishes in the sink, pile them up on the counter, I really don't care, but our sink is not very deep, so when dishes are all piled in there it makes it so much more difficult to wash them lol.

The worst is rinsing a plate, and then putting it on the counter.... when the dishwasher is right there!

Gotta love the guys, can't live with them, can't live without them!

He is very laid back and easy going and I am more high strung and like to plan things. So definitely our personalities clashed over something. Either this or something to do with the in-laws. Lol

Usually finances ... but its so strange because we both value the same things when it comes to spending money and we both are savers (just in totally different ways) and we both want the same things BUT we just have entirely different perspectives on how to get there. We are growing as a partnership this way though, every time we have a disagreement it puts us closer and closer to finding a way to get the best of our viewpoints together. So that's nice! We don't really fight either, its more just sterner conversations and then we always end with I love you and cuddles.

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Oh my god... Dishes! Kill me now.

I cook he does dishes that's always been the deal.

We have a dishwasher... one would think its not that hard..

But for some reason I never ever have clean dishes to cook dinner... or pack my lunch.

And then I find 50 million Tupperware containers in his car or lunch box.

Drives me insane. Not full blown argument, but I definitely express my annoyance.

Haha thankfully we do our own laundry. But sometimes he uses the laundry machine as a hamper... which is also annoying if I go to do my laundry.

But the dishes thing.. lol really grinds my gears haha.

We fight because we have different personalities; he’s much more lax than me. I’m sooooo type A.

So, say I need to go change my license plate renewal sticker - I do it right away. My FH will wait until the very last minute to do things which usually results in something going wrong (I.e., the website is down and he can’t renew so he drives around with an out of date sticker) and him subsequently complaining about it. I tend to lack sympathy 😂

I love him but he’s not organized at all!

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Yup! Hit it right on the head!

Not going to lie - it's usually me that misunderstands or is confused... Never leave/go to bed angry of course!

I also heard that it's when people fight about the same thing over and over again that that's a bad sign so I feel our fights are all good and just comes with the relationship. It would be weird if there was no fight at all whatsoever...

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LOL! This and dishes!

Laundry, laundry and more laundry.

One of us misunderstood the other.. not really a fight. just sensitive and then feel a little disconnected. We get over it quickly though !