Feeling like a burden as a bride??

I feel the same way Late bride, I am 44 and getting married for the first time. I have taken part in many wedding showers, weddings followed by baby showers I never blinked an eye when it came to helping out, buying gifts, etc! But now that it comes to me, I am struggling. I also don't like being the centre of attention and I can be stubborn in asking for help. But overall, I believe it's in our heads...we are overthinking. What I have done is told my wedding party it is all up to them how they want to do the shower, I have no expectations.

I can relate in some aspects 100% - especially since my FH and I have been engaged since 2018, and we haven't been able to have our big day yet! Feel like people have just lost the "excitement" of the whole thing or are not as invested when I talk things like bachelorette, shower or anything...

However, I do think some of our feelings are because we are overthinking/in our heads!! You mentioned that you are in your mid-30s and getting married, but it sounds like you attended a lot of weddings/events in your 20s...which could very well be a different vibe, because none of you are the same ppl anymore - doesn't mean less invested/excited, but a different vibe.

When it comes to ppl participating in shower - it could be that some are still concerned about covid, or are just not in a place where they can make it - I get it, it sucks, but am sure it's not a reflection on you or how they feel about you.

As for the bachelorette - planning stuff like that is always stressful (take it from someone who has planned about 6 of them, including 2 I wasn't even in the wedding party for), but when it comes time to execute, it's always worth it for all involved.

Not sure if this helped at all, but hope it eased some

I'm so sorry you feel that way Kate!!

I think a lot of it has to do with all the tv shows and movies we see growing up that really blow up the whole engagement and wedding planning experience into what should be "the most magical moments of your life"! Same with our friends - for the most part we just see the happy beautiful party that's the result of lots and lots of actual work. But when it's your turn to plan you see all the behind the scenes stress, logistics, and constant decisions!!

Sending you lots of virtual love and support!