Feeling defeated

I feel you with the COVID blues. We decided to go ahead with a wedding on our original date, my fiance's family has a beautiful backyard and we are inviting immediate family only. Then hosting our reception next year. Every time I think I have this organized, something changes and I feel like I am scrambling again. Most days I just want to get it over with, and I feel like that's not how you're supposed to feel going into your wedding ya know? and then I feel guilty for not being excited, and down the rabbit hole.... I know it's going to be a beautiful day (hopefully the weather cooperates!), and we have a great support system, and I'm excited to be married. This just isn't how I had envisioned anything, and I feel like we're letting so many people down. You're not alone! My new motto has become "It is what it is"

I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster with it all. At first I thought we would be okay in November but in the end we did decide to postpone everything until June 18 2021. Some days I’m good with that other days I am angry at the world lol. We are only postponing once as we would both look back and deeply regret it if we didn’t postpone at least once. Our lives are on hold right now waiting for it. Trying to see it as more time to make it wonderful!!

Sending positive vibes! ❤️ I totally understand. Our wedding was supposed to be May 2020, then postponed to September 2020, our venue then cancelled all their weddings so we had to postpone again to May 2021 and start over with a new venue since ours didn’t have any available dates for 2021. I’m having a hard time even getting excited for May 2021 since my fiancé is American and half our guests need to come from the states. I hope everything works out for all of us brides affected! One thing we did to help us on what would have been our wedding date in May, was cook the wedding meal together (or try to) that we would have served. We spent the day just the two of us, cooking, relaxing on the deck and playing board games together and just really enjoyed the time together! Still make the most of your wedding date and try to make it as special as possible, I know I’ll always remember the fun day we had together now, and it really took my mind off feeling sad that day. Sending positive vibes ❤️

We decided to go ahead with our ceremony, no matter what that looks like this year. The party has been postponed to next year and I really hope that's enough time!


I've found that stepping away from wedding stuff sometimes helps. I used to take a day or two off, now I tend to be off more than I'm on in wedding mode. And earlier when I did plan it was for things that aren't time sensitive like hair and makeup instead of looking for a florist or picking invitations.

While I can't relate, wanted to send you positive energy. Try to look at the bright side, you'll have more time to iron up all smallndetauks and maybe do extra things.

I can definitely empathize! My (now) husband and I postponed our May wedding back at the end of March to August 9th when things were looking pretty bad and there was a lot of restrictions limiting gatherings, being optimistic and hoping for the best. We did a small ceremony at home in April a month prior to our original date as we lucked out getting a marriage license. The closer we got to our August date the more we realized that it was not going to work out either and ultimately decided to postpone again to our one year anniversary the end of April. I am hoping for the best (and seeing how things are progressing feel a lot more optimistic and happy with our decision), my heart definitely ached as both dates came and went without my wedding happening. I found it easier having support from my mom and maid of honor and they both did something with me on the dates to celebrate the would have been dates and make them special. Definitely still celebrate your day with your fiancé, have a special date night out or get a nice take out dinner, or make a tradition and try make the best of the day! 💜

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At least you got close to your previous date!

View quoted message Oh nice!! We had to go a week earlier because one of our major vendors couldn’t do the same weekwnd

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We were very lucky with our venue when we postponed in May, we got the same weekend next year and our date is August 7th 2021

View quoted message So true! When is your wedding next year? We moved ours to August 14th 2021

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Yeah it was nice to get away for a few days! Oh for sure it's definitely hard and who would of thought the world would be like this right now

View quoted message That’s awesome that you got away for a little trip! I’m hoping that we can keep focus on our next year wedding and our plus from postponing like getting a videographer


It’s just hard and I could never imagine this would happen

I feel your pain! My wedding was supposed to this past Saturday My fiance and I postponed back in May in August 7 2021. Back then I was ok with us postponing but this past weekend definitely made it difficult just know that this was the weekend that we were supposed to get married. We decided to head out to our lake house and just relax and try to keep our mind off of what this weekend was supposed to be. But now that this weekend has past, I can focus on our new wedding date and hopefully by next summer things will be somewhat back to normal

View quoted message Lol! I think it would be a fun way to remember this time lol

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Doing your engagement shoot on that day is such a good idea! Just like Cindy had the T-shirts you guys could have a sign or something along those lines aswell. We always joke that it is the funeral of our wedding date so were wearing black that night I would totally work that into some of my pictures if I was doing a photo shoot hahaha.

View quoted message Agreed ! We have about 160 and really hope to have as many there as possible with us. I know we made the right decision for our situation but it’s still hard for sure ! One other thing I did as a pick me up and to try and feel exited again was subscribe to a Miss to Mrs box. My first one is on the way now and I’m hoping it cheers me up a bit and gets me excited about being a bride again.

View quoted message I think that’s awesome! And your date is one week before mine was supposed to be! We talked about getting engagement photos done that day as well today

View quoted message I love the idea of the almost married t-shirts. I think it would be a funny memory to have in the future! I think that trying to book work off that day would be a good idea, because I will be so sad and upset especially if I’m at work and not doing something to celebrate

View quoted message I know, I feel so jealous of the people who are continuing their wedding. We have 130 people and only having potentially 30% there was not enough for me so I’m glad we did but as the date moved closer the harder it gets

I’m sorry to hear of your postponement and blues 💙 I have been feeling the same, I find some days or weeks are harder than others. We postponed our October wedding a full year (less one day) and I can’t seem to shake the sadness of having to wait so much longer. I see a lot of weddings still happening this summer, especially outdoor ones, and it makes me so jealous sometimes. I’m hoping that once our original date passes I will feel a bit better, and I’ve been trying to focus on planning something special for that day to make the most of it. Our day’s will come soon ! 💖

Ugh, I am so sorry for your COVID blues. This is for sure a tough time for all and I feel like it will get better and worse all at the same time.

My best advice for the day you were supposed to be married, do something you both love and have people with you that will support you. I was supposed to be married on July 31, 2020 and since we had to postpone until May 2021 we booked a camping trip with some friends and made the best of it. I had a friend make us t shirts that said "Almost Married July 31, 2020" and we wore them every moment we weren't on the lake paddle boarding or enjoying the sun. Having people around us that loved us as well made the day even better.

We will all get through this. Keep moving forward.

Ugh I know how you feel (Im supposed to be getting married in 12 days) I feel like the closer I get the more upset I get. Im ready for that should be wedding day to just pass and I will be able to look forward to the May wedding. On our August wedding date we made a reservation at a fancy restuarant (Our anniversary spot) and I got a new dress and were just going to have a romantic dinner. My parents are watching our daughter for the day too so were using that to our advantage as well! Having those plans to look forward to definetly ease the sadness!

Ah man I am so sorry you are feeling all that. It is really been a tough year in so many ways, especially for us COVID brides.


Do you two have plans for what would’ve been your day? Then it’s still something to look forward to.
When I feel the Covid blues start to creep up I try to focus on the extras that we are getting with our wedding being postponed. Or I try to switch my focus to something else in our lives.
Hang in there !