Family members getting too involved

Is not so much that they want to force their opinion on your event is that they really want to be part of the day in some way, is what i have noticed during our planning. There are things i don't mind getting a lot of feedback on and other things i make it clear that what me and my FH decide is what goes.

No, you're not weird for feeling like this at all! Just explain to those who are really involved that you appreciate the help they have given but you would like to take the planning from here and make the big decisions with your FH. They will understand.

I feel like this all the time with my mom, who got married 30 years ago. Styles change, lot of things have, but my dad has helped with reeling her in lol.

I get where she's coming from, she probably had a vision of my wedding day since the day I was born. I rely on my parents a lot to help with the wedding since they live where it'll be and I'm an 18 hour drive away, so they've visited vendors for me but ultimately, me and my FH make the decisions.

I honestly think almost every bride goes through this. In wanting to help you have a lovely wedding, too many people are OVERLY helpful/opinionated. It was surprising to me when I started planning my wedding the things that people focused on and demanded.

If you are polite, then don't worry about hurting anyone's feelings. Feelings might be hurt temporarily but as long as you are polite and let them know that you do appreciate their feedback, but it's too much, they will get over it.

You could also try and steer them towards the things you do want help with! For example:

"Thanks for all your help and ideas mom. However, where I could really use your help is with picking flower arrangements. I've found these 3 vendors I really like, what do you think of them?"

Giving them a set guideline of what you do want their opinion, and how much you want their opinion will really help everyone!

I understand where your coming from. I agree with Jennifer on how to handle it, this is the best way and I have had the people be understanding when I approach it that way. My aunt is very happy for me but came at me with a million ideas. Love she has ideas and if I liked them I would use them, I had to politely say this is what I had in mind instead.

You’re not weird for feeling like this it’s normal to want control over your wedding decisions. I’ve had lots of friends/family try and give me ideas or tell me how I should do something and I appreciate their help/ideas but I usually already have something in mind lol so I politely let them know that. There will be times when you need advice or help and can reach out to them but they don’t need to control anything. You and your fiancé do. You can politely explain you and your fiancé have decided something (whether it be your menu or whatnot) and I would hope that they would respect that and drop it.

I am going through the same thing. I would talk to them and let them know how your feeling. I have been talking to my fiancé about it and he just tells me at the end of the day it’s what we want and they don’t get to decided. They are family they will understand

It's totally fine to feel like that. My fiances Aunt keep putting her two cents where they don't belong. We told her that we are not having plus ones for single guests, her exact reply, "Yes you are. You can't say no plus ones that's not how it works" she then insisted that people will bring plus ones anyway then we informed her that those uninvited guest would be asked to leave due to capacity and private property. She also made a comment about reception receiving line (where we stand and greet ALL guests as they arrive) and we said no that's not a thing anymore and again her exact reply, "You have to do one, you have no idea what weddings are like!" She also told me "No" to wanting colour in my dress. And the list goes on... For all of these things I very politely, but very strictly told her that it's not her wedding. She's never been married, only helped plan her sisters that's all her wedding planning experience and that was 28 years ago. So don't feel weird about wanting control and what not, take control and tell them what is what.

Bethany said it well. It’s your wedding and you and your fiancé should be in charge of the planning process. Sometimes if too many people get involved, the focus gets lost. Maybe try making some of the next decisions on your own with your fiancé? That might help you regain some control.

No it is completely normal how you feel. I'd say you're just feeling overwhelmed and people will understand if you tell them that you just want some alone time planning with your fiancé. My sister at first was sending me wedding dress pictures everyday for the first month and I just had to tell her to stop. It really helped. But ultimately its your decision on what you do.