We are doing a BBQ potluck reception so we are providing all the meat (Pork loin, burgers and hot dogs). We asked guests to bring a bottle of wine or a side dish to share instead of gifts and so far we've had a lot of volunteers for both wine and food.
We asked people to choose one of the meat options. My FH's cousin sent her rsvp by a message to my FH with no food details so on Sunday we messaged her to ask what they'll be eating. She responded 'what are the options? and with three teenagers, they eat a lot'. I sent her the meat options and said there will be a potluck (she had no idea what a potluck is so I had to explain that to her) and then 2 days later responded that her and her 3 teens will take 4 hamburgers and 6 hot dogs. How would you react to this? My reaction was shock that they would be demanding of so much food when we will have so many side dishes to add to their plate. If they go get a burger and two hot dogs and other people see that, then I don't want other people going back to get more food and then not everyone would get the food they requested and I have zero intentions of having second servings of the meat for everyone who is there. As it is we budgeted 1 burger for people requesting burgers, for hot dog people 2 hot dogs each and for pork loin well we are buying packages of pork loin that will each feed 4 people.
I kind of feel it's rude to request extra main dish food at a wedding. Our wedding is inexpensive compared to most but we still have to feed 130 people!
