Emotions and Covid Wedding

Hi Rebecca,

I was just married one month ago, I just posted myself on how I am struggling then saw yours. It is nice to know you are not alone. I am married, had a micro ceremony/reception with 26 guests down from 160, no venue or vendors just backyard location and I basically planned it all in two weeks. I am so happy to be married but I am still so sad about the experience. We are hosting the big celebration next year with all our vendors not to miss out on money and to try to have the normal experience, but already going through it I'm having a really hard time coping too. I don't want two weddings! It's hard to let go of what we cannot control, you feelings are valid and us COVID brides only truly understand the experience. I am sick of people telling me the day was perfect and we can celebrate next year. If you are not a bride who planned so hard to have to plan a completely different wedding and not hold up to the standards of the first, it's just hard. Please know you are not alone, these are trying times. Keep doing your best! Sending love.

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Depending on your situation (if indoor/outdoor) and how comfortable your close family or bridal party are, you might still be able to hug them during moments of the wedding that are important to you as long as you are following the guidelines in place. I personally was in a bridal party of a wedding recently and I just tried to reassure the bride that I personally feel comfortable. I didn't hold back when I hugged. I know it's hard when we feel physical restrictions, but you can also feel the love and joy through words/speeches/vows. I know it's hard, but do your best to enjoy and be in the moment. The day will be beautiful because of your love

The mixed feeling is there at this time and doesn't feel normal at all. Things change and have to accept what comes with it as much as it hurts to see our loved ones wanting to be together more.

On one hand, the excitement of the wedding day to see all your family and friends is a happy joy knowing they are celebrating with you. Their presence is enough to keep you smiling even so when you talk to them on the phone or chat through text.

On the other hand, the sadness of not getting close is not the greatest even when you see them in person and having to hold back because of the covid. The aspect of just that hug or touch isn't the same as just sitting next to them.

Hi Rebecca, I totally understand how you feel. I kept saying to my fw how hard it will be not to hug everyone on sight! It’s like a grieving process we’re all going through because we can’t keep things going the way they were and it’s difficult to reconcile with. Perhaps there’s a way you can still connect physically with your family and friends while still maintaining covid safety guidelines. Once you’re able to figure that out, the joy will come back.