Elope, now what?

Congratulations on your wedding! Option 2 would be best since I know we had to attend a family reception for in laws after they eloped and told the family except us though we couldn't travel. They did send the invite the phrase used We Eloped. Its great you two still went ahead with getting married overcoming the family occurrences. They will still have a good time to celebrate with you at the latter reception.

Congratulations!


I think option 2 as well. People will be a lot more accepting if they know they're coming to a reception and not having it sprung on them. Plus covid is a great excuse! We had a tiny wedding and couldn't be happier, it wouldn't have been as easy to pull off without the pandemic as an "excuse".

We had some friends actually do this pre-covid, they wanted to get married sooner rather than later due to immigration. They sent a cute card that said "we couldn't wait, can't wait to celebrate with you all soon". To my knowledge most people thought it was cute and didn't take it personally! However they did send the cards during covid so maybe people just assumed that was the reason.

Congratulations 🥳 to you and your husband Carly!!
Yes, I agree with everyone else — option #2 is good to go. Also, yes, you can blame Covid. 😂 Sorry that you’re going through little family drama, but it’s all about you and your husband’s happiness. 🥂

It really depends on what the family drama is but whatever decision you make, do it for your sake, not for others' feelings.

I agree with everyone else, send them a “we eloped!” Card so they have time to process and nobody acts poorly out of confusion/surprise. I don’t know the source of your family drama, but if you get pushback, blame covid! All our decisions we made to avoid family drama at our wedding was blamed on covid and people didn’t kick up because it was an outside factor.

Congrats!
I would do #2. If you’re eventually telling people you eloped anyway I wouldn’t surprise them. I personally don’t think it’s something anyone should get upset over but some people probably will. The card will give people some time to get over it so they can properly enjoy your reception.

Congratulations!!

I think option 2 is a great idea, it doesn't blind side people who were expecting a ceremony (like extended family) and everyone is informed that it is just a reception. If you want to do something a little more person for extended family on letting them know it happened that is up to you. But I think its best! I would probably do the exact same.