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Early wedding gift etiquette

Brittany, on June 27, 2019 at 18:41 Posted in Before the wedding 0 10

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We received a RSVP back in the mail today, that was a decline. However they included a card and a cheque.
What is proper etiquette ? Do I cash it now ?
our wedding is still two months out. So that is a long time to hold on to it and not lose it, or for them to forget they wrote it.

But my issue with cashing it now is that I want to send out thank you cards after the wedding with photos, but I feel like 2/3 months is a long time to wait for a thank you.

What should i do ?

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Latest activity by Erin, on July 2, 2019 at 14:46

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Erin · On July 2, 2019 at 14:46
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Yep, go with that.
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Allison · On June 28, 2019 at 13:56
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That sounds like the best idea! We'll probably end up doing something similar regarding cheques/gifts given well in advance before the wedding.
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Brittany · On June 28, 2019 at 10:13
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Yeah the first thing I checked was if it was post dated, and it is not.
It's my great grandparents from my mom's biological father. So I don't actually have their phone number, and they live in a different city.
I think I will cash it, and make them a generic thank you card up for now. And then send them the official thank you card after the wedding.
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Becky · On June 28, 2019 at 09:45
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I agree with the ladies below regarding cashing it based on the date.
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Holly · On June 28, 2019 at 00:23
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I'd say cash it now, unless it's dated later. If you have a specific plan for thank you cards (picture from the wedding on it) maybe call them or email/text them and thank them and then send them an official thank you card after the wedding. But if you are just sending generic cards then send one asap.
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Tori · On June 27, 2019 at 23:59
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If it's dated for today or prior - cash it now. If they meant for it to be cashed at the time of the wedding then they should have post-dated it.
At the same time, I would give them a call to personally thank them and to let them know you will be sending out thank you's with a picture from the wedding and they are at the top of the list!
Of course, if your thank-you cards aren't going to have a picture or two from the wedding then I would go ahead and send a thank-you card now.
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Casey · On June 27, 2019 at 21:55
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I would cash it now and then give them a call or stop by their place (if they are close) for a thank you. And then send out a thank you to them when you send out the rest after the wedding
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Valérie · On June 27, 2019 at 21:12
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Technically, you have until 3 months after the wedding to send your thank you cards. So you could give them a call or send them an "unofficial" thank you note before the official one after the wedding that would include a photo.
As for the cheque : it's always best to cash it right away. Depending on the person, they might be waiting for you to cash it's gone from their account.
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Vinod · On June 27, 2019 at 19:21
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Cash it now because the cheque can bounce if they don't have the funds 2 months when you get married. Email them back and thank them with a card following after the wedding to send them.
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