Drama two weeks out

I'm so sorry your MOH doesn't seem as supportive as you'd like (and deserve). That being said, it sounds like she definitely has a lot going on right now and she's not totally wrong in having concerns about gathering during the pandemic. There are risks for sure (I hope this doesn't come off as judge-y...we still had a small ceremony last month so I 100% get wanting to still have your wedding!). Everyone is handling Covid differently, and the levels of comfort around gatherings differ depending on each person (for example, we have family that think we don't take things seriously enough, as well as family that think we're crazy and taking things too seriously and are too careful).

Covid has thrown a wrench in everyone's wedding planning and it's been so stressful and awful having to make changes to original wedding plans and see them go out the window. Unfortunately with going through with your wedding this year, you're going to have some people that truly don't feel comfortable going. It sucks so much, but maybe you're MOH is one of those people. I agree with the other posters, before demoting her, I would have a conversation with her. I would tell her how you've been feeling and also ask her how she truly feels. If she's actually not comfortable coming, she needs to tell you, so you can move on and continue planning and getting excited for your wedding.

Hi Girl,

Sorry to hear about your struggles and frustrations. You shouldn't have to deal with your MOH during this as well, as she should be supporting and helping you as well.

That being said, she MIGHT have a lot going on in her life too that she can't dedicate her FULL attention to you right now, although its a crucial time. I would definitely suggest talking to her about how you feel, tell her how much she means, and that you are disappointed and feel neglected and frustrated. Speak your mind with her and you may be shocked with her response. If it doesn't change anything I would have that conversation with her and ask her to step down to a bridesmaid, as if she was your MOH regardless of what's going on now, I am sure she still is very important to you and should STILL be standing with you, but ultimately its your choice.

Take it step by step and see how that goes. I wish you the best of luck and all of WW team is here to help in the event you need it

My heart hearts for your friend. It honestly sounds like she is really overwhelmed and struggling during this pandemic. I know we all are, but if she normally is a caring, attentive friend (and she must be, otherwise why make her your MOH?) and this is out of character for her, then there really must be other stuff going on. Have you talked to her about the stresses of her job? Maybe she's concerned about interacting with the public, or the financial strains covid has put on her. Maybe she is having health issues or is concerned about a high risk loved one. Maybe the state of the world is just really scary and her anxiety has gotten on top of her, but she doesn't want to open the floodgates of her emotions to you when you're about to get married!

Remember that you made her your MOH for a reason. While friendships change, and that can be painful, I hope that you can give her the benefit of the doubt and at least have a deep conversation with her before you make any changes this close to the wedding.

Sorry to hear your MOH hasnt been providing your with support especially during these uncertain times with planning and whatnot. Perhaps she is also stressed with things happening in her life and doesn't realize that she's been ghosting you? Not making excuses for her but sometimes people get distracted when stressed and covid probably isnt making things easier.

Like the other comments, I would also have a heart to heart with her. If she still cannot support or acknowledge how you are feeling then you would be justified in changing her role..

I would speak to her first. Voice your concerns to her and go from there. Sometimes it's good to talk it out then just doing something rationally