Don’t really want the showers or bachelorette. Family thinks otherwise.

I'm the same way. HUGE introvert. A night in on the couch with a book is my kind of night. My family/bridesmaids also didn't agree with no shower/bachelorette. I mentioned it to them and they didn't really listen haha before I knew it they were planning a shower. There was originally supposed to be 2 showers but I managed to talk them down to one. It was this past weekend, and it ended up not being so bad. I managed to fade into the background for most of the afternoon. Opening gifts was SUPER awkward, but my friends sat close by so I could quietly chat to them while I opened gifts, and it really helped.

My bridesmaids are also pressing the bachelorette thing, I think they are really looking forward of having a girls night. I spoke to them an managed to get them to agree to planning something low key. They haven't given me the details, but my sister assures me that it's something small and simple.

Talk to your bridesmaids and let them know that what you really want is to have a quiet girls night in. I would hope that if you're open with them and express what your dream bachelorette would be that they will listen!

I am/was in a similar boat; I did not want a bridal shower or bachelorette party.

I decided to let my mom and sisters plan a small bridal shower for me; it will only be them, my nieces, and two of my best friends in attendance. I figured if I were in their shoes, I'd want to be able to do something nice for me too, and because I don't have a Maid of Honour, bridal party or anything of the sort I decided to compromise. I was firm that I do not want a bachelorette party, though and I intend to stand by that.

Stand your ground. If you don't want either and you feel wedding-wise you've been generous in terms of allowing them to help you with planning, then don't feel bad. It's your wedding and you should have that peace of mind if you want it.

Its not for you to have one and to let them know its nice they are throwing one for you both though it can be for SIL only as you don't want one.

Make arrangements to be out that night for yourself and some friends to go for dinner or movie. You don't need to be at home with them all if you don't feel comfortable to celebrate. They will ask you where you are and why you're not with the family and wedding party. Do what's best for you and enjoy.

I would talk to you MOH and just explain you appreciate them wanting to do something, but tell them needs to be low key and here some ideas. Just mention the more crazy things that they might have planned might not something you would enjoy.

You could totally have a bachelorette PJ party!! just keep dropping hints to your sister and anyone who listen about how much fun it would be to have a PJ party and talk up all the things you could do ie face masks, movies, candy, some drinks if that's your thing too. I think it sounds fun

Maybe talk to someone who knows everyone else and let them know that you don't like certain things or that you would rather do the night in. If they're trying to make it a surprise for you, it might work if it seems like someone else had the idea and you were still surprised?