Do couples still do Engagement parties? Jack and Jill?

I had to look up what a Jack and Jill was, and my church basically combines that with a bridal shower to end up with a wedding shower, where it's a party for the couple, usually featuring games like the shoe game, wedding mad-libs, some trivia/icebreakers, and usually making the couple bake a cake with one person blindfolded and the other giving instructions. They usually have a money jar, or gift table depending on what the couple needs (for couples that don't have much, or are moving out on their own for the first time, usually they do household gifts). They plan everything, so it's not something that's really in my control or list of things to plan.

Since our engagement time is less than a year, we just did a few smaller things, family dinners, going to a restaurant with friends, etc. If it were longer, perhaps we would have done something, but even then, it would probably just be reserving part of a restaurant and having everyone get together, sort of like a birthday or anniversary.

So we got engaged last summer and threw a small engagement party in my parents backyard, we honestly just made a fb group and made sure to specify gifts weren’t necessary. It was nice to just celebrate with anyone who had a couple free hours that day.
Fast forward we are having a stag and doe in June, however we do live more in the country and all of our friends and family are super into the idea of a stag and doe. (Anything to help with the cost of the wedding is a plus)
I wanted to skip a bridal shower but my mom and bridal party insisted so we’re doing that as well. I think if you want to have these events then definitely do it because you don’t want to regret not doing it!!

Thanks ladies! Glad I'm not alone!

I feel like it’s not as big as back in the day, I see it more in smaller town.

I felt the same pressure! Social media plus cultural expectations of having a bunch of big events was stressful on its own, l finally decided it wasn’t worth having everyone make multiple trips. So, no jack and Jill, no engagement party (my mom took us out to a nice dinner), and no bridal shower. Because we live far from all our friends, I already see different friends every month for the weekend so leaning towards no bachelorette as well.
Fiancés friend got married in January with no other event, my friend is getting married this month and planned a pre wedding dinner only because the ceremony is on a cruise and most can’t attend.
So you’re definitely not alone!

I skipped all the parties. It just was not important to me personally and I did not want all the attention. I love planning events but when it comes to an event being for me, not so much lol. I might have settled for a low key girls night a couple of weeks before just with a small group - I think that is sweet.

My husband and I skipped the engagement party and jack and jill. Out here in Alberta jack and jills aren't a thing. I did have a bridal shower only because my mom really wanted to throw me one since I'm here only child.