I just need a place to vent.
Last night, my FH and I had our last meeting with the Reverend at the church we're getting married at. We're getting married at a church because A ) it's one of the only locations we could find that was reasonable in cost that could fit all our guests and B ) it's important to our parents that it's in a church. I'm (low) Anglican, and he's Baptist.
Turns out, this is a high Anglican church. We knew that the ceremony would be religious from the get go, and were fine with that. But after last night, it's way more than we were expecting. Full on 30-45 minute service (so my FH, I and our wedding party actually sit down for part of the sermon).
The Anglican church is relatively modern - they no longer have the word 'Obey' in their vows (which is awesome), and our Reverend is a lady and super funny and chill. But it's more formal than the Baptist services he's used to.
What's most disappointing to me, and really making me sad though, is that there is no 'You may now kiss your bride' moment. I didn't realize how important that was until I was told it's not in there. I asked if we could add it, and was told no. I understand the Reverend's position - it's not part of the official service, and her faith doesn't allow her to change the service. But it's still disappointing.
We're thinking of recruiting one of the groomsmen (the rowdiest one who I know will be loud and rowdy the night before at the rehearsal, so will sort of set the tone) to call out "You may now kiss your bride!" at the appropriate point. Maybe gauche and rude, but...I think it's a moment people -expect- in a wedding. Or is it just me?
