Deceased Father

View quoted message Good point it's a beautiful picture

View quoted message In 20-30 years when you look at your wedding photos of your mom walking you down the aisle do you think you will be thinking mom was cross i wouldnt let my step dad walk with us or that its a beautiful picture?

View quoted message Thank you! I think I do just want it to be my mom. Sometimes she's a little difficult when she doesn't get her way

I have seen so many brides have pictures or trinkets on their person somewhere. either in their flowers or sometimes their dress. there are many ways to honor him but you need to remember not to do it for everyone else. if you are the only one who gets the reference or even sees it then thats what matters the most because its for you not them. even having an empty chair up front with a candle lit with his picture would be a beautiful way to honor him.

I am doing a small photograph frames of my grandparents on my bouquet and they are visible around my flowers. This way he could still walk you down the aisle. We also included wording in our ceremony about those have passed and at the reception we have a table set for those who have past their photos and a sign similar to yours. If you just want your mom dont be afraid to tell her that! It is your day!

View quoted message We're not super close.i think I just want my mom to walk me down the aisle I know my mom wants her and my stepdad too but I prefer just my mom.
Memory table is a good idea

When my dad passed away a year and a half ago my mom got his finger print from the funeral home and had it engraved on a pendant for me. I plan on wearing that on a bracelet or anklet for my wedding.

Its totally up to you and how close you are with step dad. you could also do a memorial table in the lobby of your venue with that sign you made and photos and candles etc.

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Glad there was a solution your dilemma.

View quoted message I love that! That's such an amazing idea! Thank you so much I'm going to do that.i especially love my husband to be and I lighting the candle together

In this scenario, the best suggestion I can give is your mom walking you down while you have your bouquet. The bouquet itself should have a picture of your father on it facing you so you know that he is there with you in spirit. This is something my cousin did especially since she loved her dad a lot as you do.

When you do the reception entrance, have a picture of you father and a candle in front of it and light it to bring his presence into the room. This was done by one of my SILs sister as she wanted something special to remember their father in spirit and in heaven. Her and her husband lit it together.

I hope this suggestion works and brings that personal touch to your day and you personally.

View quoted message Yes you are exactly right. Thank you for your honesty!

I would personally just have your Mom walk you down if you were originally going to have your Mom and Dad or just Dad. Adding the Step-Dad is a bit weird because I assume had your Dad still been alive your Step-Dad wouldn't have been a thought to walk you down the aisle.

View quoted message Thank you so much for your advice! I think I'll keep the sign on his chair and I have a picture to put on my bouquet.

View quoted message Thank you so much for your kind words. Thank you for the advice!

I've seen some beautiful bouquet locket charms so you can have him with you while you walk down the aisle.


I also went to a wedding where there was a seat saved in the front row with a similar sign.
It's wonderful that you can honor your relationship and his memory on your big day.

View quoted message He will be there the entire day. You'll feel him with you I'm sure. Anyway that feels right to honour and include your father is the correct way.

View quoted message Yes I have a charm with my dad's photo that will be on my bouquet.i think I'm over thinking it trying to make sure he's included in every aspect of the day.

Have you thought of a little picture for in tour bouquet? You can have your dad with you as you walk down the aisle... There are some beautiful little frames for bouquets you can get. I would have your sign on a table with a candle in front of it. It is all totally what will work for you.