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Church Dress Code

Agnieszka, on January 23, 2020 at 11:45 Posted in Wedding ceremony 0 10

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Hey everyone, I just read through my church’s wedding booklet and read a blurb about brides and bridesmaids should be modest and if exposed should wear shawls. My dress has a pretty low back and has thin straps, and my bridesmaids have the same thing pretty much. I’m not worried because I really don’t want to wear a shawl or make any of them wear one. I do have a cathedral vail though. Are priests really concerned about dress code these days? Will he say something to me/my bridesmaids? He really won’t see us until we go up there pretty much lol I’m nervous now!

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Latest activity by Nelly, on January 26, 2020 at 12:33

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Nelly · On January 26, 2020 at 12:33
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Talk to your priest as soon as possible about the dress code, you wouldn’t want him to refuse to marry you the day of your wedding. For example our rabbi made it clear that exposed shoulders wouldn’t be allowed. We could use shawls or sleeves
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Rayanne · On January 23, 2020 at 23:12
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Honestly the worst he can do is refuse to marry you until you cover up. That would be horrible. I would show him the pictures and find out if they are appropriate. I know that when I was in Europe if your shoulders were bare they did not allow you into the church. Better to be safe than sorry I think.
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Vinod · On January 23, 2020 at 16:47
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Church Dress Code may vary due to the priests and area considering where your getting married. I short blazer may be best to cover up for the ceremony portion keeping safe on your end. After, the girls can remove the blazers at reception.
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Kelsie · On January 23, 2020 at 14:34
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I had the same concern.

To be honest - I searched our church on instagram and TONS of brides/bridesmaids have shoulders not covered, etc., etc. so I think my sister and I are good.

When my FSIL got married, her dress had long sleeves, etc. which isn't my style and her bridesmaids had like a cover up blazer ish thing that they removed after.

For me, for a 20 min. ceremony, what a waste of money to buy a cover up that you aren't going to probably wear ever again. Technically - your veil is a cover up.

I would probably speak with him privately if you're really worried and get his advice.
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Agnieszka · On January 23, 2020 at 14:07
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Omg lmao that would be horrible haha
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Tori · On January 23, 2020 at 14:06
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All I have to go based off of is the movies - which I mean I think the worst that he could do is have the Groom and GM give their jackets to the girls to cover them up in order for him to perform the ceremony?
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Agnieszka · On January 23, 2020 at 13:58
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These are the bridesmaid dresses
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Agnieszka · On January 23, 2020 at 13:57
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But what can he do? Embarrass us while we are up there? This is not our Parish so we aren’t close with him
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Tori · On January 23, 2020 at 13:35
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Some can be a stickler for "the rules" so if it was me I would reach out - better be safe than sorry!
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Geneviève · On January 23, 2020 at 12:49
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Is your priest relatively conservative? Bare shoulders (including spaghetti straps) are often a no-no, especially for an old school priest. You’d best ask beforehand rather than potentially deal with him being upset on the day of.
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