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Child in wedding party

Cameron, on September 14, 2019 at 20:52 Posted in Wedding ceremony 0 8
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Ok, I am lost. My fiance and I have a son together. We both really want him to be as involved as possible in our wedding.

I was thinking of making him best man, or at least a groomsmen. Then I would have 4 ladies on my side and hubby will have 4 men on his side, including our son. However, our son will be 3 or 4 when we get married and I'm unsure if he will be ready to stand still at the alter.

Then there is the option of having him as a ring bearer and he can sit with my mom if standing still is too much. But then we have an uneven number standing at the alter..

Anyone else in a similar situation? What do you recommend? Have you seen something similar at other weddings?

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Latest activity by Ashley, on September 23, 2019 at 16:33
  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
    Ashley ·
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    You dont have to have even wedding party #s. i think hes too young to stand up at the alter with you guys but thats just my thought

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  • Erin
    Super September 2019 Ontario
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    I dont think having an uneven party matters. We are VERY uneven. I have 6 girls and 2 guys (8 people), and my fiance has 6 guys and 1 girl (7 people). I think ring bearer makes more sense for a child of that age.
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  • Vinod
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    A solution found to the issue is always the best way to go and you two did. Glad everything worked out for the best.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    That sounds so cute!

    Our wedding party is also uneven (by one) so I wouldn't worry about it.

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  • C
    Newbie July 2025 Alberta
    Cameron ·
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    Thank you ladies! I discussed it with hubby and we both agree giving him the option to sit is best. We will either find someone else to be in the wedding party or just leave it as is if we aren't able too. Instead of ring bearer, our little man will walk down the aisle be for I do with a cute sign that says "daddy, here comes mommy" (or something similar).
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  • Bianca
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    Good answer!

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  • Katelyn
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    Well said. Totally agree. I don't think it matters to have even numbers or not. And your son may be more comfortable sitting down for the ceremony.
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    Super September 2020 Ontario
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    Is having equal numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen important to you and your fiance? It's quite common to just pick the people who are most important in your life and not worry about having balanced numbers. Or is there anyone else who could stand up with your fiance so your son can be the ring bearer? Either way, it sounds like including him as the ring bearer would make for a happier kiddo and avoid any potential disruptions to the ceremony. That's what I'd do.

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