Can we change it?

Never, ever, EVER selfish to do something for yourself, especially with something as serious as marriage. I have ALL of my deposits down, only 38 days away, and my mom STILL says it's never too late to make the choice to say no. (She loves my FH, there aren't problems, but she's just saying it's never about the money/guests/plans).

Your wedding should be happy, joyful, and brings you two closer than ever. If it's not, than you are doing the exact right thing to step back and evaluate what you need/want.

Definitely change the date if you feel its best for you two. no one will mind, and if they do its not your problem because whats most important on your wedding day is you and your future husband. Let your love grow and passion spark again to plan and once that happens set a new date

I would definitely change it, if you are not emotionally/financially prepared then it will not be what you had hoped. It is your day do whats best for both of you.

It is 100% NOT selfish to move it around! Especially if you are not in the right mind-frame to plan the wedding as is. You are thinking about this far enough in advance that moving things around won't affect people's plans.

I would let your guests know either the next time you see them or in an email that you are pushing the date back and that you'll send revised save the dates when you are ready to. If someone doesn't like it they can shove it IMO.

I hope your rough patch blows over soon!

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Perfectly said!

Its your day. you're far enough in advance to change it. Dont worry! Do ehat you have to, to make your day happy and stressfree

Everything Gina said is on the money!

you need to do whats best for you and FH. mentally, financially, emotionally.

if you have email addresses or fb for these people. I would just send them a message. (not a mass group one...yes more work. but more personal). and let them know. if someone doesn't like it. OH WELL! their problem not yours.

we are all here if you need to chat.

Thanks guys. Yeah, it's been a rough 6 months. And it just keeps coming unfortunately. Here's hoping people are understanding! We just can't put the focus on a wedding right now with everything else blowing up. 😔

I don’t think there should ever be a rush to get married. I think the best thing you can do is tell people you’ve postponed until further notice for personal reasons, and you’ll be sure to send out revised save the dates at a later time. Don’t but so much pressure on yourself if you guys aren’t mentally or financially ready. I know it can be tough to change plans, we did it a couple times. At the end of the day, it’s about you two and what’s best for you both. I wish you both the best of luck! It’s sounds like you have a lot of tough things going on right now, and I hope things get better for you both now

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Oh my gosh, I am so sorry to hear that! I would for sure move the wedding date, and there better be nobody that says a single thing about it! Not selfish whatsoever.

View quoted message Oh we have everything booked and secured. We Just had a few things go wrong (lost job, lost pregnancy, medical diagnosis, etc) that make the whole thing tainted.

Do what feels right. In this case it looks like moving it back might be the right decision. Just perhaps don't send out the Save the Dates until the 6 or 8 month mark or until your venue is all booked and there isn't much backing out that can be done.

If you're not feeling it, move it. It's your wedding, and if you both agree the date isn't right, no one else's opinion matters. This should be a happy event, so do whatever you can to make it as enjoyable for yourselves as possible. I hope things are getting better... Sending hugs