Bridesmaids Duties

Thats maybe too much to ask of your 5 bridesmaids, will the groomsmen be contributing to this? Maybe I would just ask them to work on your bachelorette and bridal party. It can get pretty expensive to do all three too.

In Manitoba we have have socials not stag and does. We sell tickets and it's a way for people to come together and party celebrating the couple. There's prizes and drinks of course it's like a staple when couples get married. Not much goes on in our small town so we look forward to these things. The party helps with this by it's the couple who normally does it. Shower is normally the mothers and bridal party and bachelorette party is the bridal party.

I personally think that is a lot. I am not having a stag and doe and will have a girls night instead of a bachelorette as all my bridesmaids live a few hours or more away.
the couple/ family usually host the stag & doe. I would ask your bridesmaids what they are comfortable in participating before assuming they will.

I believe financially the couple should pay for the stag and doe, but I expect my party to be hosting it. Im giving a budget and they can do the rest!

I think you have the right idea.

I'm not a fan of a Stag and Doe.. why get married if you can't afford it... but definitely the bride/groom should be covering it. Really the money they make at the stag and Doe would be used to cover their expenses and then fund-raise for the wedding. If you DO financially contribute to the Stag and Doe, you should be reimbursed with the proceeds of the event.

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I agree, just wanted to make sure that was the case and I wasn't going to sound like a cheapo bridesmaid for the wedding I am in later this year!

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Its not for my wedding it is for a family member's wedding that I am a part of, but no worries we decided as a group we will do the shower and bachelorette.

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Alright I am glad I am not in left field over here whew! Its for a wedding that I am a bridesmaid in, so I'm glad I wasn't going to sound like a cheapo when I say that's too much.

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That's what I was thinking too! Its not for my wedding it is a wedding I am a part of.

The stag and doe is typically held by the couple themselves or their families throw it for them. That is a lot to ask of your party.

To ask them to host these events for you is a lot.

Have they shown interest in throwing you a bridal shower and bachelorette? Has the topic been brought up by anybody?

I don't think you can ask somebody to host an event for you, usually it's offered up by the person willing to host.

And stag & doe is hosted by the couple, it's more of a "money grab" event.

That is a lot. Usually the bride's family will host the shower, the BM can offer to help with small tasks related to the shower. The bridesmaids plan the bachelorette party and the ENTIRE wedding party throws the stag and doe. Hosting events is expensive, go easy on your bridesmaids. We aren't doing any of these events because we hate going to them.

I think they could host the shower and the bachelorette. I believe a stag and does is usually hosted by the couple getting married as it is a fundraiser for them. I think you could ask them to help you come up with ideas and decorate though.