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Bridesmaid regret

Stephanie, on November 5, 2021 at 13:34 Posted in Before the wedding 0 3

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I am having serious regret over one of my bridesmaids.

I have been trying to arrange for dress shopping/dress pickup and everytime it feels like an inconvenience to this one bridesmaid.
My most recent situation, the girls dresses are in and its time to pick them up. I messaged all 3 of my bridesmaids in a group 3 weeks ago about dress pick up this week. Do you want to go together, or you can pick up on your own? My one girl works 2 jobs but says she can commit to Thursday night, my best friend and MOH says she is good with anything. The one that i am regretting gives no response. It wasn't until yesterday afternoon at 3 pm that she finally told me she can't make the appointment last night. And she messages me today and says her and I can go on Saturday. Which i cannot go due to my son playing both baseball and hockey saturdays and I have a dress fitting with my seamstress. I am just annoyed, i feel like her role as a bridesmaid is inconvenient for her. Maybe im just being bridezilla.

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Latest activity by Jowell, on December 5, 2021 at 07:45

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Jowell · On December 5, 2021 at 07:45
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I’m having a similar experience. However this bridesmaid is constantly talking about how stressed she is, how she doesn’t have any time to even process how she feels. She is a very emotional person, and I find myself stressing out about how she feels or how she’ll react more than she even contributes any support or conversation with me. We’re also coworkers so I see her often enough. She’s been having very avoidant behaviours with me and is just rubbing me the wrong way. She is the type to cry when upset, publicly, wants to be center of attention and often thinks things are “unfair” rather than considering what the other person is going through.

I’ve made my decision to ask her to participate as a guest rather than a bridesmaid. She has not returned my calls or messages and my anxiety is through the roof. Precisely why I no longer wanted her in my wedding party. I am trying to have a mature discussion with her but it just isn’t happening.
Anyway, I don’t think you’re being bridezilla. It’s your big day that will be photographed and remembered for years to come…you should be surrounded by love and people who put you at ease and ultimately, want to celebrate you.
Hoping for the best for you!
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Lynnie · On November 8, 2021 at 11:25
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I agree with Rayanne! It's always frustrating when people aren't super responsive - but she might just be crazy busy!! It can also sometimes be hard for people who aren't the bride & groom to understand the urgency of pre-wedding stuff!
I'd just be happy she can go pick up her dress on Saturday! She can pick it up on her own right??
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Rayanne · On November 5, 2021 at 15:27
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I know that would probably annoy me but the only thing you can control here is your response. At least she is going to make the time on Saturday even if you can't go with her. I wasn't even sure my one and only MOH (no bridesmaids) was even going to be able to come to my wedding until last week. She has a lot going on (your bridesmaid may also but may not want to dampen your happy time with her problems) so I basically thought of a back up MOH in case luckily, I won't have to worry about it.
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