Bridesmaid proposal - distance

If your musically talented at all (even if your not, doesn’t really matter because it’s the thought that counts) you could record yourself doing a silly song asking them. Fun way to include inside jokes, could take a song you consider the be your song and change up the words (use karaoke soundtrack). Would obviously take a significant amount of time, but zero cost, just record in a phone and send it

We mailed one of his groomsmen a box! it was a great surprise. he was so happy. i would mail them a box.

E-card seems the best solution to send to your 2 friends to be part of the bridal party. The day of the wedding is when you can give them a gift of your choice in person. This way its easier and the thought of giving them something to match their outfits or a brooch to wear.

I used "Sugar Wish" for mine! You order different types of their favorite candy and then include a sweet message. It was about $20 included shipping and they LOVED it!

I had given my bridesmaids a specially designed proposal card, a bottle of champagne and a mini gift (nail polish, bag of chips for one of them...lol) but my maid of honour is in New York. We made a face-time date and I had her “open the card” and “open the box” virtually until she visited and picked up her gift. I was too excited and couldn’t wait!! It was fun and a cute way to share in all the excitement being so far away

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And you can personalize it however you want depending on the bridesmaid. Sometimes, I just watch their response to my proposal and it gets me so hype! lol. I also did the same for my flower girls and ring bearer.

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I am in the same situation. After going back and forth in my head, I decided to send them a video proposal. I got all dolled up and recorded a video for each of my bridesmaids asking them to part of my bride tribe and I also a little story about the moment I knew they’d be part of my bride tribe, I then asked them to record their response so I can have it for my records.


I felt this was a very personal touch and something we could all keep forever. I hope this helps.

I like the Skype idea. Ask each person to keep the news a secret until a specific date so that they won't post about it online and ruin the surprise.


And as far as asking a few friends and not others I like your idea of keeping the others involved. See if they want to make a toast or emcee a part of the evening. And keep them involved in bridesmaids type activities like the shower and bachelorette, and if there is space the dress shopping. I'm not having bridesmaids so I've asked two friends to co-emcee, I plan on asking another to plan a few bachelorette party activities, etc.

Great ideas! My one other concern is that I have a college roomie group (me and 3 others) that are all pretty close. However due to what we’ve decided for the wedding, I am only able to include the one I’m closest with from the group. I do want the other 2 to be a part of our day but unfortunately they won’t be in the wedding party. The one in my wedding party is in Australia right now and I fear that if I ask her her address to send something, she’ll ask the others if I asked them or if they received something as well and they’ll feel left out and she’ll feel bad. After I formally ask my wedding party I do plan to chat with them as well.

What if you sent them something little and told them they aren't allowed to open it till a certain date when you have a Skype chat going?

I’d ask over FaceTime or Skype for sure. Then send a physical card a little more personal of a touch with maybe even a gift card inside like Starbucks or something.

I think getting their address so that you can send them a little something would be nice, but if you don’t want to have to ask, what about a proposal over Skype? It’s a little more personal than an e-card and you’ll still get to see their reaction as though you were there!