I am writing this on my lunch break as I need help on how to respond this weekend.
We asked two couples to stand for us for our wedding. I told the girls in the party that the dresses were going to be turquoise to go with my beach theme. In addition to the hundreds of dollars I have spent on turquoise decor.
I received a message this morning from one bridesmaid stating do we have to wear the same dress? I said the bridesmaids and maid of honour all have to wear the same colour but they can choose their own style. If some want strapless, over the shoulder, halter, etc. As long as they are all bought at the same store to match the same identical colour (as turquoise) comes in 50 different shades believe it or not and each store has their own colour like malibu, ocean blue, turquoise, beach blue etc. So the men's blue wil match identical to the bridesmaids.
This bridesmaids then replied:
"can I wear a multiple colour dress with many colours"
"can I get my mom who lives in a different country to buy my dress as I do not like any dresses in Canada"
"It will be too hard to find time for 3 girls to go shopping one weekend and we may not like the same dress and we wasted a day shopping"
"I do not want to be difficult but I cannot be driving 40 minutes into the city for more than one weekend for wedding related stuff"
How would you react and what would you say?
My colleagues were appauled and said this is your day and this is what being in the wedding party is all about. The wedding party gets together for bridal shower, wedding activities such as DIY group activities. They assist the bride with any help they need. Most people know that when you are in a wedding party the girls generally get together for dress shopping, and the dresses are either all the same style different colour or all the same colour. They all suggested if this is her response to being asked they should be thankful and excited and suggested.
What are your thoughts? Suggestions?
As her husband was asked to be the groomsmen and her son the ring bearer and now I do not know what to do.
THanks
