Bridesmaid Bash

View quoted message It’s nice to hear that someone else had a similar issue! I think I’m going to wait for a while and see if her attitude changes. If not, I know there are others who would be happy to spend time helping me along the way.

Maybe she’s upset because you haven’t asked her to be in the bridal party?

I went through almost the exact same issue, and I chose not to ask her to be apart of the wedding party. and I have absolutely NO regrets.

Wait it out! If you think she might flake, then don't ask her yet and keep monitoring her behavior.

If she knows you want to ask her (I’m assuming you haven’t asked your party yet) it might be that she just doesn’t want to be part of the wedding party. It can be a lot of work and of course a lot of money and there are a lot of people who would prefer to just show up and support their friends as regular guests instead of the added pressure and responsibilities of being in the wedding party. They still love you the same but not everyone gets as excited about wedding planning as others.

If she's not showing interest in your life, don't go through with it. From experience, you don't want to deal with someone flakey. It's only going to make things worse for you.

I know you have tried reaching out to your friend many times to find out the issue and she doesn't want to say the truth. There is a feeling something isn't right.

I wouldn't let her be part of the bridal party with her attitude at this point and not answering your texts or phone calls. Its unacceptable for one and pushing you away right now and then now knowing if she does show up at the end for second.

You need to straight up ask her, "are you upset with me about something? It sems like you've been avoiding me and that hurts because I consider you a very close friend."

View quoted message Just come right out and ask her. Ask her straight out why you aren’t meeting like you used to.

Maybe she has things going on that she doesn’t want to tell you about. Maybe she’s jealous. Maybe she hates your fiancé. Who knows. If you want to know you need to ask her. We can’t read her mind.

If she had no real reason. Well maybe you guys aren’t as close as you think.

You will I’ll never know until you actually have a conversation with her.

View quoted message Did she congratulate you on your engagement and do the typical friend stuff like “can’t wait for the big day”? If you guys were seeing each other twice a week and talking regularly and she suddenly can’t return texts or see you, that is odd but maybe she’s really busy?

Have you officially asked her to be a bridesmaid yet?

I think a discussion about things is in order if you can get a hold of her.

I think if she continues being distant then you should consider asking someone else.

I have asked several times if she is okay. She mentioned nothing causing her stress and we have a very open line of communication between us usually. We used to meet every Monday and Thursday but she has been avoiding me since I got engaged. A selfish side of me assumes it is because she is jealous that I am engaged (and she hopes to be)

I would try and reach out to her and have a talk about everything, being in the bridal party, expectations, maybe figure out why she is avoiding you as well. If she doesn't make an effort to contact you or be in your life after the conversation, then it might be best to leave her out (totally up to you of course!!) Having a member of the bridal party that isn't 100% committed can cause a lot of extra stress because you have to take responsibility for them - ensuring they get dress measurements, paying, alternations, showing up on time etc.

Were you guys talking and seeing each other regularly before? It’s possible, as others have said, that something has happened in her life. You could always reach out and ask if everything is okay?

Talk to her. Ask her what’s wrong (maybe she has something going on in her life you don’t know about).

That's a tough one. Is there any chance she is being stand off ish because you haven't asked her and she is feeling left out?