Bride or groom performance

Thanks for the input, Carmel. I hope the guests are as positive as you!

Then I say go for it!

Thanks for the thoughtful response Hank! I think you're right on all counts. Given that the vibe is going to be pretty relaxed and fun, I don't think it would feel out of place. Luckily I've got lots of time to think it over!

It depends. And I say this as someone who likes the occasional cheesiness.

If you're a legit musician (be really honest with yourself - a lot of people think they're good when they're not), and you want to play a song with the band to dedicate to your partner, I say go for it. And if people know that you being in the band is kind of your thing, even more power to you.

Then again, I've seen non-singers (not bad singers but people who are very obviously not professionals and don't do it on a regular basis) perform at their wedding and it came off as sweet. Their little stumbles and the nerves added a touch of sentimentality to the event. They were also smart enough to keep it short so it's heartfelt without overstaying their welcome on the audience.

Some people feel like if you're not John Legend or Adele, you should never sing at a wedding. In my opinion, those people also tend to be debbie downers who will moan at anything lighthearted because they feel they're so "mature" and god forbid they feel some happiness at an event meant to celebrate love. Those opinions are ones I tend to not care about

I say do it only if it feels right. Don't do it for the sake of doing it. If your gut tells you it feels out of place, it probably is.