Bridal Shower Registry or Money?

Dont do either. let people bring what they want to bring. if they bring cash great if they bring a gift great.

I had a small registry for my shower, but a lot of people still gave money instead. People will give you whatever they feel like at the end of the day lol.

Do both! I have my registry set up through my registry.com it allows you to add gifts form any store and has the option to put cash donations for honeymoon, Reno’s, wedding, what ever you choose!

If you don't want any gifts then don't register anywhere and on the invitation state Best Wishes Only. It is my feeling and I mean no offense to anyone but I think it is never ok to ask for money or register for your honeymoon, but that is just me.

I did not register for anything, plus I have the added fact that I'm flying down for my shower and have limited luggage space. In the invites, my mom put that gift cards were suggested as I have to travel home and listed a few stores as ideas - some people might still bring physical gifts but hopefully most get the idea.

It is 100% up to you and what you want to do. We have lived together for almost 4 years, so we have a lot of new stuff, and if we were to do a registry, it would be more random stuff we really don't need.

My mother in law is hosting a shower, and putting on the invites that money is requested for our honeymoon, but yet my step mom is hosting one for my side of the family, and she isn't putting anything on the invites, just letting family know that we want money.

Some people are old school and will bring you a gift instead of money if you don't put anything down, so if that bothers you, put something down requesting money, or specific items if you aren't doing a full registry.

It's really up to you. But if you are having a shower then you should choose something - personally the money at the shower thing is a bit weird - everyone watching me just open cards would drive me nuts - plus then everyone know how much other people spent. And from experience, if you don't register for gifts, people will still buy you things but in this case it will be things they "think" you need - not what you actually need so you may end up with 5 different toasters, or things in a really awful pattern. With a registry, at least those people who insist on buying things will have options of things that you actually want and can use.

I had registered for 3 places, some people brought money or gift cards to where they thought would be nice. My mom ended up telling some people what I needed or people bought what they think I would need. Most people only 4 people out of 30 looked/used my registry! I wouldn't straight out say to give money only as that would be turn off. For people who can't afford much of gift they can usually get something on sale and looks higher value or feels better than bringing what they can afford in money

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Thanks nonetheless, I think I'll just tell my mom that we can let people decide whatever they want to bring but a simple card is okay too!

Have a great day

View quoted message Yes, someone will always bring a gift even if you put no boxed gifts on the invite. It always happens!

Many people think “asking for money” at a bridal shower is taboo but really society has changed so much, I don’t think it’s taboo at all.

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Hey Kelsie,

Thanks, that's a great point, we've lived together for three years now and don't need anything typical like that.

I don't want to do a registry so I think just leaving out that info would be fine. Do you think people will still bring gifts though?

I’m not doing a registry. I don’t need anything or need to upgrade anything I have.

Im just not putting anything gift related on the invite and if anyone asks my mom or FMIL will simply say money is appreciated for their new home.

A bridal shower is typically for gifts for the new home of the bride and groom but if you’ve lived together already, or like me, lived on your own before, you have things already and if just doesn’t make sense.

do what works for you!