Good day everyone!
Bridal showers. What are they and do you want one?
What is a bridal shower?
The original purpose of Bridal Showers is for the married women of your family to "shower the bride" with advice. Bridal showers were put on by the married women in the family (grandmothers, aunts, mother, older cousins) so that the bride to be could receive multi-generational perspectives on life and marriage.
In modern times, bridal showers have shifted to another party to celebrate the upcoming wedding and typically gifts are relating to the honeymoon such as lingerie.
Do I need to have a bridal shower?
That's entirely up to you!
Some brides have multiple bridal showers. One that is the "traditional" multi-generational family shower, one that is thrown by the bridal party.
You can make it whatever you want.
What if I don't want a bridal shower?
That is perfectly fine also.
Marriages and engagements have evolved in the past decade.
People move out on their own long before they get married, they move in with significant others before they get married. Depending on the couple/situation, you may not want another opportunity for people to give you more gifts, you and your future spouse may have lived together for years and known each other just as long or longer, accumulating items and learning about each other.
Can I have a co-ed bridal shower?
Once again up to you! (Do you see a theme?)
Co-ed isn't just for the LGBTQIA+ community! Invite him or them, or whoever you'd like! (Just make sure the are invited to the actual wedding!)
If your conservative-traditional Aunt Sally is invited to the one your sister is hosting, let your wedding party know you'd like a co-ed shower and do another one at a later date.
What do you do at a bridal/wedding shower?
Play games, eat, open gifts, talk, wine tastings or another activity whatever you'd like!
What are some games ideas?
a general rule is to have one game for each hour of the event (typically 2-3)
The clothes pin game- don't say bride, groom or wedding for the entire event. Anyone who is caught has their pin (ring/bracelet/ribbon) taken and the guest with the most at the end of the night wins!
Toilet paper dress/suit- Split into teams. Pick a "bride" to dress and 2(or more) designers to make the attire only out of TP! The catch is they only have 3 minutes!
Minute games- Lots of options here, search "Minute to win it games" some wedding themed ones could be picking up plastic rings with a straw (or chopstick) in your mouth, garter toss (instead of ring toss), Housewives (in teams) name as many husbands/spouses of celebrities in a minute.
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My personal stance is do what you want, it's your wedding. Of course there's certain limitations depending on who is hosting, or if parents are paying for a wedding.
What are some of your questions, ideas, or experiences?
