Bridal Shower Help!

I just relied on my MOH and my Mom to do this - of course I am a control freak so I kept bringing it up until about 3 months prior to the shower when they finally got a move on it

You just have to put it out there - if you can't go to your MOH or Mom then who can you go to right?

My family has all planned their own. theres no harm in planning ur own at least it will be your way and how you want it!! also it gets expensive for your friends to throw a party with food, booze, decor etc.

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I really like those ideas, I don't see why there's anything wrong with taking it into my own hands and asking my family and friends for help if needed.

130, WOW! At least it's all friends and family and you'll probably be around your nearest and dearest the day of the party. That makes total sense why you were needing a hall.

I think it's often the mother and mother-in-law that plan it, but if you want to have one I would speak up! Maybe ask some family or your bridal party if they had been planning to throw one and if not take matters into your own hands.


Depending on how big your family and friend group is you might need to rent a space or see if someone is comfortable hosting.

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A house is even better! I think my mom wishes we could've done it in our house (that's typically how my family does it - only inviting the brides nearest and dearest). But my FH's family invites almost every woman whose invited to the wedding. So my guest list is 130 I think.... yikes!

I would just ask your girls for some help. Pick a date quickly, arrange whose home it'll be at, what time, etc. Get some invites made ASAP and send them out! I just got mine at Zazzle - ordered on Sunday and had them arrived on Thursday. Really great price, I got 60% off plus 20% off - it was a really good deal.

Figure out what kind of "games" you want to have. Lots of ladies like the dress and toilet paper game. My personal favourite game is "what's in your purse".

Then of course, food and drink!

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Hi Kelsie, thanks for your reply! I was thinking something small maybe just at our house so I'm not too concerned about a venue. I do have three girls but one of them lives in a different Province so I assume it would be hard for her to do anything. My FMIL is helping with the wedding so I'd feel guilty asking her to help plan this...

I can relate! I'm involved in planning mine just because my tastes and my mom's and sister's tastes are very different. Having said that, they are involved in the planning with me.

Do you have a bridal party? I would raise the issue with them and say you'd like to have a bridal shower. You might want to start looking into venue availability however if your wedding is April 2020.

I ended up booking my own bridal shower to make it less expensive for my mom and my fiance's mom.