Bridal Shower Guest List

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If they're invited to the wedding then invite them to the shower! It will be a way of letting them celebrate you since they can't attend your wedding

I think you should keep the invite list MORE open specifically because you're doing a destination wedding and this is a great way to have a mini celebration with all the people who are going and aren't going! You can probably make a cute invite that words it about being the home celebration!

Also just a note... for sure do NOT suggest to people that they shouldnt get a gift because they aren't a part of the wedding... just seems in very bad taste to me! Also it makes it seem like tho who are going to the wedding are now expected to buy you a gift?

In my opinion gifts and having registries are an open thing and no one should feel like they NEED to buy you something, that should be left 100% to their discretion and never expected.

Anyone that is on your guest list you invite to the shower. Regardless if they are coming to the destination wedding or not.

exactly what Bianca said about it being faux pas if they were never on your guest list.

I'm in agreement with the other ladies. It's your guests' choice and their own decision to not attend the destination wedding, as long as they were invited, they can all still be invited to the shower.

My cousin got married in Mexico, with a grand total of 42 people (including the bride and groom)... she had more women than that at her shower alone!!

Honestly, most people who can't afford to go to the wedding will be excited for other local pre-wedding festivities that they can take part in.

I agree with Bianca and the.. other Holly... lol

The only thing is that if you do plan on inviting anybody who wasn't on the wedding invite list - I would just ask them in person and let them know that gifts are not necessary. Otherwise, the last wedding shower that I went to I got the invitation in the same envelope as the wedding invitation so even if it was a destination wedding I would still have put that I would be going to the shower.

Also - congrats on the engagement and welcome to the wedding wire community!

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Thanks! Thats what I figured but I read some mixed opinions online so thought I'd ask

As long as they are invited to the wedding then I see absolutely no issues at all. Typically you invite those also invited to the wedding, it's when you invite those not invited to the wedding that is considered rude and unacceptable. But since all are invited there is no issues.

No everyone was also invited to the wedding! They are just unable to attend.

I’ve got a question for you Holly, are these potential bridal shower guests (who cannot make it to your wedding) invited to the wedding as well? If they are but are unable to make it, it’s fine to invite them to the bridal shower. If you’re talking about inviting people to your shower who were never on your guest list for your destination wedding, then it’s a faux pas.