Bridal shower..

My sisters, who are my bridesmaids, will be throwing one (with the assistance of my MOH). My sister's are younger so they don't really know what to do. They've threw parties before (university parties LOL), but they've never organized anything like a Bridal Shower. So I'm helping them by making a guideline of what themes I like (pinterest) and the guest list. They can do whatevery they want as long as it is civil hahahaha

My MOH, who's been a bridesmaid before, knew the drill. Immediately after I got engaged, she already asked what events I do and don't want. (Engagement party - No, Bachelorette & bridal shower - Yes) - and she assigned roles and asked for my preferences.

I agree it's a little weird to throw your own bridal shower, but I don't see anything wrong with you suggesting what you like and don't like. Especially since bridal showers can get really expensive. (I just want a simple one with family and close friends in my backyard with a brunch bar - my sisters love me for that because now they don't have to dig deep into their osap-debt pockets )

Totally agree with Laura! We had a few people at my shower that weren't invited to the wedding like coworkers or the moms of some of my friends and it was fine!

My MOH threw a shower for me and I offered to help her pay for it (no one else had to know) but she took it all on herself which was really generous of her.

I agree with everything Melissa said except that I don't believe that only people attending/invited to the wedding should be invited. It might just be a small town thing but my Mom threw my sister in law a wedding shower in our home town (very small only 2500 people) and none of the ladies invited were going to be invited to the wedding because the wedding was in Saskatoon. It was mostly an opportunity for the local ladies who have known my brother since he was small to meet my sister in law and celebrate the wedding. I have also been invited and attended bridal showers where I knew I would not be attending the wedding. Again I from a small town in Saskatchewan and live in a relatively small town in Alberta. So my experience might be different on this than someone from a larger centre. We have also thrown work showers where we had a shower for a staff member who was getting married knowing we weren't invited. It is all situational but I do agree that if no one else throws you a shower you shouldn't really throw one for yourself. Hint away though!

Also, my FH will make an appearance at shower and then will leave as he showed me a video of one of his sister's bridal shower. For Jack and Jill style shower both bride and groom are there with the guests.

Hi Amanda, I spoke to my MOH and let her know that I would like a birda shower. She did ask me if I wanted a Jack and Jill style but my FH wanted to just have a regular bridal showe in my honor. Typically, it's the MOH from what I read that organizes the bridal shower and can ask for assistance from the bridal party along with the mother of the bride. Hope this helps.

I just mentioned it to my MOH and she and my mom are going to be throwing me one in June to celebrate with all the ladies .. just a fun get together in my moms backyard with all the wonderful ladies who I am friends with who are invited to my wedding family and friends ... just something simple yet fun to celebrate

Hi Amanda, sounds awesome to have a bridal shower, a good time to catch up with your friends and family before the wedding. It's also a good way to make your guests connect

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How do you imagine yours?

Melissa nailed it!! It is considered in poor taste to throw your own shower, but you can totally bring it up to your BM's or your mom or FMIL even. There are such things as co-ed showers, but I don't know any guy that likes going to them, so I think showers with just the ladies are best.

It seems like such a loaded question doesn't it?

I'll give you my take, and you can let me know if you think I'm crazy or not!

I don't think it is ok to throw your own shower. As a rule, it would be considered a bit rude to throw a party for people to come and give you gifts.....but if you want one, I see nothing wrong with mentioning to your mom and MOH that you would. Your MOH and BMs aren't really obligated to throw a shower, but typically they, or your mom/aunties would. You don't want to be demanding- showers can be expensive to host, so you'll want to leave room for your friends to politely decline hosting a shower. Maybe next time you are with your girls mention a cute idea for a shower that you have seen online, and see how they respond?

While I wouldn't suggest planning your own shower, you can help out by providing a guest list (only ladies going to the wedding should be invited), and letting your BMs know where you are registered. If you want a theme, let them know, but I think most of this end up being hands off....your host is throwing you a party, so accept whatever they are willing to do for you!

Men- don't invite them. Let your FH go play hockey or something while you get showered....I on;t say this because I know my FH would be bored to death at a shower.