I am getting married in October 2022, and I'm having a hard time deciding on my bridal party.
My only sister will be my maid of honour. I will also be asking my two college roommates to be bridesmaids as we have dreamed about being in each others' weddings for years and years.
My fiance's two high school best friends will both be groomsmen. One has a long term girlfriend that I have become very close to, and the other one is married and I'm not as close to his wife. Here is the dilemma: I really want to ask the girlfriend to be a bridesmaid, but not the other one's wife.
The issue is that the married couple had a destination elopement a couple years ago, and we were the only guests that were invited. In addition, the wife was very upset when another friend got married and her husband was a groomsman but she wasn't asked to be a bridesmaid. She can be a difficult person to deal with and is not very reliable, but I don't want to cause a rift in our friend group by not picking her.
My fiance only really has 3-4 guys he wants to ask to be groomsmen, and I really don't want to end up with 5 bridesmaids as that seems like way too many and I'm not sure all of them will get along.
TL;DR: If I pick one groomsman's partner to be a bridesmaid, do I also have to pick the other one's wife from the same friend group, even if we aren't very close?
Thanks in advance!