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Melissa
VIP June 2017 Ontario

Booking an officiant

Melissa, on September 30, 2016 at 13:48 Posted in Wedding ceremony 0 4
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Hey ladies and gents,

My Fiance and I are meeting with an officiant on Sunday, we are hoping to put another check mark on our list of vendors to book! My future BIL will be joining us for the meeting because:

We are meeting a man who who handle the "legal" part of the ceremony. Signing and anothing else required by law....part of his service is helping write a ceremony for a friend or family to perform.

Our plan is for my future brother in law to perform the ceremony, and have this man jump in and do all the legal stuff right at the end, and then leave the final pronoucement to BIL.

I'm just wondering if anyone has suggestions of what we should be asking? We are not religious, so we really are only concerned with the legal contract of a marriage, but beyond that- what does an officiant do?!

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Latest activity by Melissa, on October 3, 2016 at 10:24
  • Melissa
    VIP June 2017 Ontario
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    Hi Emilie,

    Our meeting went very well- luckily the pros always know the questions I should be asking, even when I don't!

    He was able to explain the process quite clearly- In Ontario he is required to sign (of course) and make a final pronouncement. We found our officiant on WeddingWire- Kip from Fun Weddings. He is going to help my BIL write a short, simple ceremony, personalized to us and respecting our wishes for certain parts. This way gives us a lot of control over how the ceremony will go.

    It is key for us to have the ceremony and legal part all at the same time, because I want our famililies to witness the legal and symbolic ceremonies. I know for some people it is different, but as far as we are concerned marriage is just a legal agreement (a very nice one!). Having our family miss that part would mean they are not actually seeing us get married. The symbolic ceremony is just an augmentation of the legal part, so we don't do away with all tradition.

    We have boooked with Kip now, so that is one more big checkmark on our to-do list!

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  • Emilie
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    Hi Melissa Smiley heart

    How did your meeting go with your officiant yesterday?

    I think it's a beautiful idea to have your BIL perform your wedding ceremony. It makes it such a meaningful moment to remember all together! Smiley heart

    You do need someone who is certified for the legal part. If you haven't done so already you could discuss with him how to have your ceremony done in two parts, one legal and civil, while the following part would be more symbolic performed by your BIL. It think that's basically you already had, right?

    You can have a look at these discussions to see what other brides are wondering:

    Who is your ceremony officiant?

    How much is your wedding officiant?

    Inviting the officiant to the reception

    How did it go? Did he suggest anything interesting? Smiley smile

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  • Melissa
    VIP June 2017 Ontario
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    We want our family with us when we sign and are married, that is why we chose a small ceremony...I think your idea might be simpler, but not quite the romantic meaningful to us.

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  • Nelly
    Expert September 2017 Ontario
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    Why don't you go to City Hall have all of your legal documents signed, then have you future brother in law perform the ceremony part of it

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