Bachelorette party - yes or no?

Me and my fiance are taking the entire wedding part to these escape rooms .. so its a combined party.. neither one of us drink and id rather do something with everyone then be separate. Were not doing a stag and doe either or an engagment party.. we are doing a bridal shower ( maid of honours idea ) and a rehersal dinner

As far as I know, nothing has been planned for me but I am doing a Paint Nite with my mom in two weeks (a week before the wedding) I will extend the invite to family and friends who live in that area.

My fiancé asked me what I wanted to do for my Bachelorette party (as we talk about everything.) I told home that my dream party is to go to a Calgary Flames game (I love hockey) and then go to a bar I love down the road from the Dome and have some more drinks and food. Something low key.

I'm in the same boat as you. I think the whole "traditional" bridal party is tacky -- for me at least.

I'm going to keep the celebration low-key, inviting my four bridesmaids and sister. We may go axe-throwing and try a spa day. I wanted to do a weekend trip to Montreal with wine/craft beer tastings -- things like that, but I might just go local.

We aren't doing separate parties or anything big at all. We decided that a few days before the wedding we are going to do a group thing. Likley just go out for dinner and have a few drinks. Nothing too crazy.

My wedding planning coincides with my 30th birthday, so i'm planning a trip to new york with my best friend/maid of honour, to which i will invite my and my fiances sisters, and our mothers so i can get some dress shopping done. after that, it will be food walking tours, art museum tours, manicures and a trip to a cookie dough bar. i'd be lying if i didn't say there would probably be too much champagne, but everyone intends to stay clothed and the only dancing done will be sober and in the middle of stores like my best friend and i like to do.

I honestly don't think there is a uterine with this, Erin. I am having a bachelorette party and have asked to have no strippers and im not into that stuff. Im hoping for a laid back party. I say go for what feels right for you.

Hi Erin

I was in the same boat as you, I also don't have a large group of gf's plus i'm not into going out for a night drinking and that whole thing. My MOH and I decided we would just do the bridal party (6 of us in total) and we woudl do a weekend in Niagara Falls, 2 days,1night We are planning to do a wine tour in Niagara on the Lake and then do a couple hours at a spa. At night, we're going to go out for a nice dinner and maybe hit up the casino for a bit. It will still be a blast and i cant wait, but its something that I am looking forward too that doesnt involve strippers or getting drunk lol

Weddings have changed a lot over the years so the bachelorette party can be whatever you want! You could do a wine and painting night, go see a sporting event, have a spa day, anything! I like that idea of going out to dinner with some close friends and family instead. We decided to do a joint bachelor/bachelorette party and it was so much fun! One of my bridesmaids was my sister who was underage so it was really important to me that we do something that she could be a part of. My side went out to dinner at a restaurant and my husband's side went to a brewery. Then we all met up afterwards and went to an improv show and it was such a blast! I'm really glad that we did it together because my husband is my best friend and of course I'd want him there to celebrate with me! So do what works for you!

Definitely do whatever makes you happy! I am just doing a small dinner with my bridal party as I am not one to go to the strippers and what not. I don't even drink that often as it makes me sick.

Thanks for all the advice and support ladies! Really appreciate it! I figured that a lot of future brides would feel the same way these days. It's difficult breaking tradition when everyone else has ideas from the past.

The expectations are not actually coming from my bridal party since neither of them live anywhere near me and won't be able to get here until the day before the wedding. If they were here they would be like your friends and know me well enought to plan accordingly. Thankfully my mum is understanding about most of this stuff so I have an ally

Nope. Not the only one! I feel the exact same way! Just a quite dinner, backyard bonfire type idea. That's it. And how you feel is completely okay. This is your day! Do what you want! 😀

A friend got us tickets to a 4x4 rally the week before the wedding... Mud, live music and more mud, it will be a great time... There is even a trash the dress... My sister and I will be having a spa day with the BMs a few days before the wedding... We went tubing/zip line for my BFF bachelorette... Whatever you think is fun and worthwhile... Hangovers are not fun, lol.

That's 100000% okay, it's whatever you're comfortable with. I'm the same way. We didn't have an engagement party, not having a bridal party, none of that traditional stuff because we hate attention and like you said, feel it's pointless.
I was speaking with my MOH yesterday actually and she was saying she really wants to throw me a "Bachelorette party" but since she knows me so well she said she wants to just have me and the other person in my wedding party maybe go to the spa and then have a movie night/sleepover kind of thing which is more up my alley.
I say just do something low key like that if you're up for it! Dinner is a great idea as well!

Im quite similar in being a non-traditional bride... We will be skipping all the pre-wedding events except bachelor and bachelorette parties. As far as the bachelorette goes I have no desire to go to a club or a bar or anything of that sort. I would be interested in something a little lower key... maybe a tour to a couple wineries and a nice dinner or a camping trip. Basically I just want to hang out with my girls, relax and enjoy myself. I know for my fiances bachelor party, he will likely just go camping for the weekend with the guys and go fishing and hiking and stuff.

I have also found like you said Erin that a lot of people have expectations of what you should do. I'm quite lucky in that my bridal party understands me very well and knows what I want, so i can let them plan the day (they are REALLY excited to plan stuff) without worrying that it wont be what I want. I am quite a blunt person, so when talking about my wedding and plans with people if people question me I'm pretty good at just saying, "ya I don't want that or don't like that. Here is what I DO want instead." So far I haven't run into any issues, but both mine and Dons family are super chill and respectful of what we want. Annnd Don's brother got married 2 years ago and they kinda broke the mold with the non-traditional wedding stuff. A lot of our ideas and what we want will be fashioned after their wedding.

That's what the FH is doing with the guys for his bachelor party: boys weekend either camping or cottaging. Thanks for the support!

I agree that going to a bar all night sounds like the worst idea!! Not my idea of a fun time these days.

I agree with Breann. Do what you want to do! My friends and I are resurrecting our annual camping weekend for my stagette. For my friend's a few years ago, we rented a cabin at a lodge and spent the weekend playing board games and sitting in the hot tub.

I think perhaps if I was younger, I'd be more into going to a bar but that literally sounds like the worst possible thing for me right now.

Thanks Breann! I find that other people have so many expectations of what should happen at and before your wedding that it can be difficult to get your vision or opinion across.

I say do whatever you want/makes you happy!