Bachelorette Party Weekend Help

One of my bridesmaids was getting out of hand as well, the best my other ladies could do is at least give everyone breathing room between all of the 'events' of the day.... My day is going to start at 11am and the last 'event' starts at 7pm to whenever. She wouldn't take no for an answer and wasn't taking into consideration our location or even my tolerance for lots of people.

I already know I'm going to be fried from the day, so if she wants to party I'm leaving her to it and going home to my pjs, cat and bed lol!

I would sit down with him and have an honest chat with him, and thank him for trying to help. I feel like mine will be a weekend away since I live so far away, but a week is too much, especially considering the time off you'll need for the wedding!

I think you just need to communicate with everyone. I think you might also want to consider appointing someone as the lead for planning your bachelorette so that it doesn't get out of hand. Pick someone you know will respect your wishes.

A week in Niagara is a lot.

That's really tough - I think you just need to be really clear, and also message each person to see what their budget is. That may be the main deciding factor.

That's tough. Communication is going to be key - for me, the first thing I did was set a per person budget for my bridesmaids (I set it at 75&dollar. Because I have friends who simply can't afford much, I told them the per person price maximum was firm, and that it had to include whatever activities, décor, food, drinks, etc that they had planned - anything above that per person cost, they were going to have to foot.

Oh goodness, that is quite the adventure he wants to plan! I can imagine how excited he is, but you'll definitely have to let him know what you'd prefer. I agree with what Marcia says and be as nice as possible about what you're hoping for.

Hey Andie, I think the best way to handle a situation like this would be to first thank him for his suggestions letting him know you really appreciate his help, but for your wedding you think it would be better to stay for a short period of time because of these reasons (your honest reasons). I mean he can always stay for the week and you can stay for a shorter period if he insist. It's definitely harder when there are too may head chefs in the kitchen! But I would let him know in the nicest way possible that you have the final decision, this is the one time it can't be about him, and he just has to be supportive if he is a good friend. Hope it all works out!

Oh no!

That sounds awful. I'm sorry. Maybe be honest with him and tell him that you're not comfortable with him planning it? or if you're worried about hurting his feelings, maybe give him clear guidelines of what you want to do?

For mine, I know it was more of a discussion with my bridesmaids and myself. Truth be told, I was the only giving out ideas and they were OK-ing them based on what they wanted. In my case I feel like it's going to be more of what they want to do than what I want to do.

But if you can talk to him or ask one of your other bridesmaids to veto his choices, then you should be OK.

Good luck!