Bachelorette drama...needing advice

You are not in the wrong at all! It is not your responsibiity to pay for excursions such as the one they planned without making you aware unless you've agreed to it. These bridesmaids sound bat poop crazy! I'd put the bridesmaid in her place and then apologize to the bride about not being able to attend due to financial constraints.

Hi!

On your half it sounds like you didn't agree to any of the plans which is not fair to you. However, even if you can't go to the bachelorette, you should still some how give some kind of money to the MOH to help pay for whatever bachelorette events they have planned. Even if it is just a smal amount of money. The bride should come first... you should think of what would make her happy..whether that be you giving them some $ for a few drinks on their first night out, or perhaps contributing to decorations etc. Something that will tell the bride 'even though I couldn't make it, I still tried and I hope you have a good time on your bachelorette'.

I wouldn't bring the Bride into any arguing. I myself am a bride, and two of my bridesmaids have dropped out of the bachelorette after everything was agreed upon. One didn't want to come because she'd rather go to Cuba... and one because she's choosing money over me (long story). Anyways, of course I got mad and my MOH is my sister so I was ranting to her and she sent out an email to my bridesmaids explaining what it is to be a bridesmaide etc. and then one of them text me shortly after saying how rude my MOH's e-mail was too them (even though technically i wasn't even on the email b/c my MOH tried to leave me out of it). Anyways, bottom line of my story is it's annoying being the bride and getting caught in the fire. We have enough going on and we don't need to stress out about the Bachelorette, that really should be handled by the bridal party.

If i were you, the best thing you could do at this point is contribute in some way to the bachelorette (because being part of a wedding party means going to bachelorettes/bridal showers etc). Even if you can't contribute a lot, at least something small and i'm sure your bride will be thrilled, which is the most important part. In terms of keeping the peace with the rest of the bridesmaids, I would explain to them again that you never agreed to anything but you're hoping to help out in X number of ways.

Hope this helps♥