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Asking the wedding party

Alana, on October 20, 2019 at 22:02 Posted in Before the wedding 0 11

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Hi everyone! My fiancé and I have been debating when to ask our wedding party. We know who we are going to ask but our wedding isn’t until August 2021. When is a good time to ask? We are so excited!
Also, did you ask everyone all at once/around the same time? We’d love to do it in person but we have two friends who live in another province and we may not see them until next summer. How can we still make it special for them if we don’t wait to ask in person?

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Latest activity by Ashley, on October 22, 2019 at 15:55

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Ashley · On October 22, 2019 at 15:55
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Since you have a lot of time you can wait till summer to ask everyone together. i did a girls lunch date and gave them all boxes in person that were our wedding colors, with hand written notes, sun glasses, luggage tags, hand sanaizter and nail polish
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Nelly · On October 22, 2019 at 00:29
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We asked everyone in our bridal party once we had a date confirmed with our church and venue
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Sarina · On October 21, 2019 at 18:28
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We got engaged August of 2018 and I immediately knew who I wanted to ask so I asked them both around Christmas/New Years that year when I saw them. We didn't even have a date picked but I was just so excited. My fiancé didn't ask his guys until this summer so I would say just go for it but definitely do it in person, it makes it so much more special.
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Adriana · On October 21, 2019 at 16:31
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Our wedding is August of Next year and we got engaged this October and we asked friends and family to be in the wedding party right away. If we could ask in person we did but I had to video call in to my family to ask my siblings if they wanted to be Maid of Honour/Bridesmaids/Groomsmen and Flowergirl/Ring Bearer and such
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Allison · On October 21, 2019 at 11:58
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Anytime really! But Tori mentioned a year before for non-family members, just to make sure you have who you really cherish by your side.
That being said, all our wedding party was asked by 18 months and I wouldn't have it any other way!
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Tori · On October 21, 2019 at 10:07
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I would for sure wait to ask non-family members until the 1 year mark. This avoids them all wanting to go dress shopping, you having a falling out and then have to ask them to not be in the party, and/or other things like gaining closer friends.
Trust me, I know how much it sucks (I got engaged Dec. 30th 2017 and our wedding was October 5th 2019... waited a solid 10 months before asking anybody other than my sister who was obviously my MOH).
With that timeline - do you mean next summer as in summer 2020? If so, I would ask in person. If you mean 2021.... well they do need to be asked before the wedding
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Katherine · On October 21, 2019 at 08:11
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Hi Alana! My fiancé and I are also getting married in August 2021
We will be doing our wedding party proposal in a few weeks. We wanted to do it with everyone at the same time, which is easier for us since we all live in the same town. We also preferred to do it very early since our wedding will be on a Friday, so we wanted to make sure we would give enough notice for everyone to arrange to take a day off. As Chelsea mentioned, this also gives them more time to save up a bit in preparation for the big day!
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Rayanne · On October 21, 2019 at 07:59
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I did ask my MOH as soon as we picked the date. I don't have any other BM and it is something that won't change. For us it was almost 2 years before the date.
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Vinod · On October 21, 2019 at 04:45
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Your time asking the wedding party is how special you make it. A trip in person to see your friends will be nice and get them excited to be part of your day.
We asked shortly after knowing my fiance at the time (now husband) said he was ready. I would say 11 months in before the day.
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Chelsea · On October 20, 2019 at 22:39
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I asked my girls 23 months before the wedding! 2/5 of them are travelling for the wedding, so the more time the better! Also keep in mind it’s a financial commitment from them (paying for their outfits, wedding events, etc) so more time means more time to budget
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Valérie · On October 20, 2019 at 22:21
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I think 18 months before the wedding date would be good. You don't want to ask someone to commit too far in advance, in case life happens and they can't do it anymore.
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