Yesterday my FH and I had a long discussion about our wedding plans. For the last couple of months or so I've been trying to remain optimistic about everything working out, but as our wedding is nearing double digits we decided to face the reality that postponing was probably the best thing to do. Our wedding was supposed to be on August 15th and it's a hard realization that things probably aren't going to work out the way that we had planned. We invested so much time and money into our dream wedding and its a sad reality that its not going to happen as planned this year.
We have tentatively rescheduled our wedding for August 14, 2021. However the more we talked about it the more that we realized that we still want to get married this year, so we are making a final decision about whether or not to postpone the wedding the first week of June. If we decide at that point that we are going to postpone, we are going to have two weddings instead. We are going to have a small intimate ceremony with our immediate family this year and our big wedding next year. We had planned to get married in a Catholic church but if we postpone it will be by a marriage commissioner, then next year we can have our marriage blessed by the Catholic church at our wedding. The nice thing is that we would get to write our own vows this year and then have the traditional vows next year. I also bought a simple wedding dress to wear to the small ceremony, that way my actual wedding gown can be worn the day we celebrate with everyone else. My FH is also getting a different suit to wear this year as opposed to next year because we wanted our wedding next year to be special and the way that it was meant to be. The nice thing about everything is that we still get to get married and we get to celebrate our one year wedding anniversary with everyone.
The other thing that stressed me out was the idea that everything was going to be booked for next year with our vendors, but luckily we had no problems rescheduling anything which was great. Our photographer even offered to come to our ceremony this year to photograph everything and take some formals should we have to postpone.
I know there are other brides that are struggling with making the decision to postpone and believe me, I know how you feel. I was devastated with the idea that things would be postponed and was completely withdrawn and unexcited about everything. However, my FH made some good points. He said that we can still go forward with our wedding but people may have anxieties coming to a large gathering if the restrictions are lifted. He also said that if someone unknowingly has the virus, we would feel like crap if other guests got sick because they attended our wedding. We want our wedding to be a good memory for everything and an event where everyone can enjoy themselves. We also haven't had my bridal shower or either of our bachelor/bachelorette parties and everyone deserves to have the full experience and create amazing memories.
If there are any other brides that are struggling with the idea of postponing or just need to vent, feel free to message me because you are not alone. It's not fair that anyone has to worry about the virus wrecking your perfect day, but I mean there are other ways to make sure that it doesn't.
