Appropriate time for Wedding Shower

9 months works for you to have the shower, go for it. Etiquette is there as a guide and to know when to do any events. Its sad to hear that his side wouldn't do anything for you though MIL can be part of the planning helping with the cost. I'm sure his family would come out and celebrate you beforehand as its your happy day. They will change their minds hopefully.

Free yourselves of etiquette and do what's best for you! I think 9 weeks prior is more than fine if that's what your schedules allow.

I would rather receive invite the sooner the better as my schedule books up fast in the first few summer months. This way people can plan accordingly. I have had to travel 2 hours before on a Sunday to go to a family friends shower and then travel back. She sent hers out a few months before and helped as I was working weekends at time and needed to book off.

Pick a time that works best for you! Mine will be the Sunday before my wedding. My step mom is throwing the shower and my sister is coming in from Australia. She most likely won’t be here until the week before and she’s my MOH so I wanted her there.

There's a shower timing etiquette??? bah who cares. I've NEVER noticed as a guest (or cared to notice) how many weeks there are between the shower and wedding.

And if guests are sitting there counting the weeks and being judgy, then they're a bunch of petty bettys.

Our wedding is in September, and my mom was talking about hosting a shower for us early June.

My bridal shower was in September... my wedding wasn't til January. It is about when it works for YOU. Traditionally every female invited to the wedding gets invited, whether they are able to attend the wedding or not.

Don't worry about people not coming, either, the important ones will make sure they are there. I had 45ish women invited, and we ended up having 18 ladies. We had an amazing High Tea party, and I loved it. Jeez, even my own stepsister forgot about it until later that night, and she has yet to apologize for missing it.

I wouldn't fret about it too much. Just go with the flow, and don't worry too much about "inconveniencing" people... To the people who matter, it's never an inconvenience.

I think this is one where you can screw etiquette on the timing and have it when it's convenient. Mine is being held about 9 weeks before my wedding because any closer to the date doesn't work.

I think that as long as the people are invited to the wedding already, you can have the shower at any time. For me, a couple of months seems ideal, but we actually had my shower two DAYS before the wedding as my out of town aunties really wanted to be there and we couldn't ask them to travel twice!

View quoted message Thanks for the response! I think my moms more worried as shes technically hosting at my house and it's her side that has to make the commute for it.

So true! Thanks for the advice

I would say that as long as they are invited to the wedding first - it could be any amount of weeks prior to the wedding!

I'm thinking that nobody would turn their nose up if you had it a week or two earlier than what "etiquette" says. Heck, just last October I went to a Halloween wedding social and the couple isn't getting married until this September this year! They just really wanted a Halloween themed social...

Our wedding is May 24th and my shower is March 10th! so like 11 weeks in advance! I wouldn't stress about formalities of WHEN but just try to pick a time that works best for you! Personally the earlier the better! Getting closer to the wedding day you will have enough to worry about!