Anyone have their wedding this year and in a wedding before yours?

That really sucks, especially if you took all the time to plan around her schedule and are planning/attending hers! I don't know if it's worth talking to her about how you might be feeling hurt that it feels like she's not putting any effort in at all for you while you have for her.

We live one hour apart, so I know regardless of where we have any bachorlettes it will always be one hour extra on top of the time as it will more likely be opposite way. I just don't like how its expected of me to attend and plan hers but she won't plan or attend mine and its even after her wedding. I made sure to work around weekends she had her kids, her wedding, honeymoon and in general it was a date that worked for everyone as it was asked in January.

I get where you are coming from, I'm in a wedding in June and mine is in October. The girl (gonna call her R) who's getting married in June is also in my wedding party so it's been nice to have someone in the same wedding planning boat to bounce ideas/frustrations off of.

Both of us are also far away from the rest of the wedding party, not to mention our hometown, London Ontario where we are both getting married. I'm in Thunder Bay and she's in Portage La Prairie, MB. So while we are close geographically, the rest of her party is in London and mine's in Southern Ontario. My MOH is in school in Thunder Bay but in the summer she's in Newmarket. Basically, R and I know that we probably won't be able attend each other's pre-wedding events since they'll be in Southern Ontario and we'll be travelling down at different times. She's going in April to do some wedding stuff and I'm not going down until June for her wedding.

It sucks in your situation that the two girls in the other wedding are not trying to make it work for both bachelorettes. It seems unfair that they aren't happy with how you had a say in what type of party you wanted, meanwhile the other girl has her requests as well.

Wedding party girls not wanting to come out for you as they see what the expense is for the 2 days of enjoyment. I can see their point of view on this and to yours as well.

Firstly, you do want to have what you feel is a getaway to enjoy the days with the girls. Expenses you see fit per person may not be the same view as what other girls can afford to put in for the trip.

Secondly, The girls that are in the party and 2 that are getting married have a point that they probably want to do something local to save that much more and to get things done for their weddings. I also saw the point that not all the wedding party do get along which does divide up whos for and against other girls.

I say let the girls do local wise and compromise with them so that you don't feel bad and get to enjoy your party they are putting for you. Its a win win case for everyone. Niagara trip can be done when you all are ready for the right weekend.

For us its around 2 hours to get there, I get its not local but there closest bar is 1 hour. my FSIL said two weeks prior that was no problem and think its more of the wedding party not getting a long. I just I am trying so hard to be the bigger person, but I will be spending more on a local one and I am expected to be there two nights and they can't be there for one for me. I def know not everyone can make it when farther. I had few people of friends offer their vehicle to drive so it would be around 10 per person in gas. For me their local spot is two hour drive. I just don't see any difference

It's a tough spot but one thing to remember, any time you choose a destination bachelorette party, you are going to have fewer people show up. Whether you think it'll cost them more or less than they think, doesn't matter - what matters is what they think it'll cost them.

If it upsets you that much though, the first thing to do is sit down with both of them and lay out your concerns, and your budget.