So some background: I've only been to 3 weddings in my life (one when I was a kid, one I was a BM, and one just a guest) so I don't know all the etiquette. I feel like I've been one of the most chill brides up until this point (I let my bridesmaids pick whatever dress they wanted, whatever shoes, I told the bridesmen they didn't have to come to/plan the bridal shower, and just about every vendor we've met with said how chill I've been). One of my bridesmen keeps "joking" that he's going to be super drunk at the reception and it's making me worried. He says he's joking, but he "joked" the same thing about the Stag and Doe and ended up just sitting around drinking with a buddy instead of helping. He tells me he will wait until the "afterparty" to get really drunk, but I just don't trust him. When he gets drunk he stumbles everywhere (like excessive stumbling!) and is just generally embarrassing himself and us. He's the only one of our friend group to not know when to stop, and to realize when we're annoyed with his level of drunkness.
Am I being a bridezilla by asking them (him specifically) not to drink a lot until after the reception is over? I feel like I'm lecturing the entire bridal party when 10 out of 11 of them know not to get that wasted. Or does everyone let their party get as drunk as they want? Idk, I just feel like he's been less than helpful the entire planning process, and the point of being in someone's wedding party is to help/celebrate them, not the same role as being a guest at a wedding.
Let me know your thoughts - if I'm being too controlling by asking them not to drink, or if that's the norm?
