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Curious August 2018 Quebec

Alcohol or not ?

Seithen, on April 4, 2017 at 12:02 Posted in Wedding reception 0 11

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Hi everyone! I know this question can sound a bit weird since in every party alcohol is one of the main drinks but, my fiancé doesn't drink since years ago he got into alcohol problems, we talk about it and he doesn't care but I'm not sure if would be a good idea in our day have something that bring a lots of problems in my fiancé past. What would you sugest? I try to find any good ideas but in the end everything is about drinks 😂

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Latest activity by Vinod, on January 10, 2018 at 12:47

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Vinod · On January 10, 2018 at 12:47
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Alcohol free can go well for a limited time. Offer red and white wines on each table so that guests are limited to drinks rhan nothing.

I can see bruch or lunch receptions without alcohol having no issues. Just ask the venue to offer certain liquors being cash bar to satisfy your guests.
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Kate · On April 26, 2017 at 07:53
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We are doing a dry wedding. No one is worth a 50.000$ fine for someone drinking too much. Plus there is no way I would pay 15.00$ and hour to have someone pour drinks. I didn't make that kind of money when I use to work in the bars so I refuse to pay someone that kind of money. Less stress and headaches with no Booze.
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Jen · On April 26, 2017 at 07:35
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I think if he is fine with having alcohol there then it should be ok. I think ur guest will understand too if u don't.
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Shannon · On April 26, 2017 at 07:29
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I think if a no-alcohol wedding works better for you guys you should do it! Maybe you could offer things like a sherbet punch, softdrinks, or virgin daquiris instead? If you put the drink station near the buffet you could even have one of your servers watching over it to make sure no one spikes the drinks
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Rekramer · On April 5, 2017 at 06:00
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I think a serious talk with your FH could help. Maybe go through some scenarios you are worried about to feel more confident in your choice one way or another. It sucks that people would be so selfish as not to respect a no alcohol wedding but I think being forthright about it is how to go.
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Zoë · On April 5, 2017 at 05:07
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Hi Seihen,

Congratulations on your engagement!! I would do whatever feels right to you. At the end it's your and your FH's big day.

Maybe you can find more tips on this discussion.

Providing alcohol for reception

Did you already bought a dress? Let me know xx
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Denise · On April 4, 2017 at 16:04
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A person I know converted to another religion and had an alcohol-free wedding. Almost every one of the guests complained about it. Some guests had snuck in their own alcohol. Lunch may evade this problem.

You could also limit the alcohol -- for e.g. have a cash bar. If you can fix the price of the drinks higher with your venue. That may alleviate the problem, but have the consequence of upsetting some guests.

You could also just have a bottle of wine on each table to limit alcohol consumption.

Alcohol-free wine or bubbly may be an option as well. And virgin cocktails!

Sorry I can't be of more help!
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Kate · On April 4, 2017 at 16:03
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We are still up in the air with that one. The licences and the cost of the drinks is a little stressful since we don't drink. I wanted to get a big bottle of sparkling wine. Maybe just a punch would work too. Just the headache of making sure someone hasn't drunk too much bothers me greatly. I don't want someone getting into an issue because of the drinks I have.
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Erin · On April 4, 2017 at 15:27
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I think both Leah and Katherine have brought up good points but only you really know your guests. I think Leah's situation is more likely if you do an afternoon or evening event but Katherine is right as well in that breakfast usually doesn't equal alcohol. You could do the brunch thing and have a few bottles of bubbly for a toast or something. If most of your guests are aware of your FH's past, then I don't think it is a problem to mention that the wedding will be alcohol free.
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Katherine · On April 4, 2017 at 12:44
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Have a breakfast/brunch reception... No one would question the lack of alcohol.
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Leah · On April 4, 2017 at 12:38
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The thing is if you say it is alcohol free, people will most likely bring a cooler and head outside to grab a drink. That happened at my grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary which was alcohol free for similar reasons. Guys kept sneaking away outside to hangout in a van drinking. So you may think you can avoid having drinkers there, but in reality drinks could still be snuck in or people sneaking out for them.
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