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Cristina
Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia

After a family feud

Cristina, on September 16, 2017 at 00:09 Posted in Before the wedding 0 6
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I am very nervous to meet with my brother after we had a fall out due to him trying to plan my wedding, not giving support mentally or helping out with some problems. It took having to get the whole immediate family involving aunts and uncles since its 1 brother and 4 sisters. They had to talk to both my mom and brother to help out in making things turn out better, we all love one another we all want to help eachother. We have our own lives but since my mom and bro do not underatand they continue to treating us like shit. I just hope this lunch with my brother will be able to patch things up between everyone. We just want to help. I understand my mom and brother did not heal inside since the passing of my dad that happened 6 years ago. I know they were already lost in life before but got worse after my dad's death. It's always about money. I do not even care for it. It's just stupid. I am happy they have agreed to stop butting in with the wedding and decided to help me a little once a month when needed for some mental support, or anything having to do with the wedding. I feel my brother is mad at everyone and may of not understood where we were coming from. He may not forgive and just talk bad about everyone. Continue on with his old ways. Just continue to be a bad person. All I want is for him to be normal. To appreciate and respect that I am his sister. Be a friend. I hate this sibling rival shit. I Love my brother! 😡

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Latest activity by Vinod, on December 31, 2017 at 22:42
  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Family fueds are the worst. My brother and i has a fallout for the longest time from the beginning and he was being a know it all. I did all the work and research and payments. He thought our family needed transportation to get there by bus. Fact, most drove and some flew renting cars fron the airport.
    My parents were going old school on ne based on thw way an indian wedding should be. Realisticly, its all changing now adays. Everything should be fine and your brother will understand someday. Just keep on getting the family on track. Hope all gies well.
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  • Ashley
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    Hopefully he will understand. It's your wedding and not his.

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    I hope your brother will understand. If not then you might just have to focus on your wedding for now and deal with all the other drama later.
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  • Sonja
    VIP September 2017 Ontario
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    Hi Cristina, most families go through a crisis of some sort and people end up falling out. I hope it's just temporary. You're not going to be able to "fix" your brother. You can try to make peace but it's really up to him in the end. Often, people who have unresolved anger lash out at those who are closest to them. If you can smooth this over, great. But if not, you may have to let him stew for a while. I have issues in my family too and I've realized that I'm not going to let it ruin my special day or my marriage. Ask him what it would take to make him happy and then decide if that's something you and your FH are willing to do. Often, they can't even tell you what would make them happy and usually they are so wrapped up in themselves that they can't think of the needs of others.

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  • Cristina
    Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia
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    I really hope everything works out.
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  • Cristina
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    I had messaged my brother a week later after he had messaged me and said harmful things before the family meeting he was involved in that happened unexpectedly. This happened after I couldn't take fighting with my brother anymore. He's all about drama and I want it to stop. I am a happy person but he will never understand, this is how I feel. I told him that we should talk and go out to lunch in public. He texted me really late and had agreed to it and thought it was a good idea after the family met up with my mom and bro by surprise. He also agreed to messaging me the day of. Since I planned for Sunday to go to lunch. Told him the location and gave my number to him again.
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